Swearing

[Beetroot]

OK..

choir, together atleast 3 hours aday.
agED BETWEEN 8 and 14

lots of swearing, ds who is nine is saying fuck off (not in my hearing) and told me one of the younger choristers called him a fucking cunt.....

what would you do?
Not sure just saying anything to the choir

master will do much good, don't want to start a culture of 'dobing'

thought I might talk to one culprit and say if I hear you say that again I will tell your mum.

But it is not just one it is them all.

so do we ignore? and accept it is a culture because of being with older boys?

My boys arenot angels and I swear, but this is going a bit far me thinks!?
thoughts please

and they look so angelic wonder if aled jones ever said that.

Personally i takcle any child that uses that language. helping at primary disco on Friday and heard aloy of it and siad to the children in question that it was not to be repeated. Have also asked adults who have sworn in the presence of my children off as well.

As long as you enforce some standards at home (either through your own good example or telling your children they well mustn't say ) your children will learn that swearing is not generally acceptable. I'm not sure you can do much to clean up their private conversations.

NickNack2 - yes, Aled used to swear! I knew him when he was 18 though

I was digging my garden last week and heard a lad of about 6 effing and blinding on the other side of the fence. I knew him so addressed him by name and said I was trying to enjoy my garden and didn't want to hear that. Seemed to work. DS1 and DD don't swear at home at all (can't say what they get up to elsewhere, but I don't think so). DS2 will shout out words for effect when he is cross and we usually ignore them, or fine him 10p which always stops it for a while! Think it depends on what friends do. I would expect an adult in charge of an organised activity to tackle bad language.

we are very clear that it is not appropriate at home (unless I am saying it)

Very ocassionally ds2 comes out with a realtively mild swear word he has got from older kids at school. I just tell him that adults do not like to hear playground words and he will get into big trouble if he uses words like them around adults. I did get called into school recently - he called his pencil a dick-head when it kept breaking. I was trying so hard not to laugh when the teacher told me. Apparently the TA thought he was talking to her!! DS did not have a clue what it meant though and was mortified when I explained why it was not a Good Thing to say.
It's very hard though when you walk past a group of youths effing and blinding. Ds's ears prick up; I'm sure kids have a radar tuned in for rude words even if they've never heard them before, they just know

at littlefish i will never think of him the same esp on sunday mornings

Be glad they're sharing words and not needles?

I can swear like a trooper - so guilt and fear of hipocracy forbades me from condemning the cussing choristers too much.

i am ok with swearing, i just think it is a bit much for a 9 year old t be saying fuck off you cunt..call me old fashioned. and for my ds3 to say fuck off when he gets angry...

I'm with you on this Beetroot. My 7-year-old came out with 'For F*k's sake' the other day. I was so shocked I asked him to repeat what he had said and when he did, asked him where he had heard it. Apparently it was from older boys he'd come across when playing out with his friends. I explained it was a horrible thing to say and would get him in a lot of trouble if he said it again. He's said it once more in my hearing and then apologised when he saw my face.

My fear is that he'll use such language in front of someone less understanding that he's repeating what he's hearing without understanding what he's saying and will end up in trouble as a result.

I agree that it's all a bit much, esp c word at 9. I think sherbet37's advice to tackle the child directly as and when you hear it swearing is the best idea.