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4-year-old seems scared of going to sleep

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CaravanShaker · 14/10/2013 11:27

My partner's daughter has always had trouble sleeping - she has always suffered nightmares, and has hardly ever slept through the night. Other factors include the fact that she (the daughter) always slept (and continues to sleep) in her mother's bed, and continued breastfeeding till she was three and a half - essentially they have an extremely close relationship.

However, I have noticed that the girl, however tired she may be, is constantly fighting sleep, and seems actively afraid of going to sleep - and when she does eventually sleep she will wake up within a few hours screaming for her mum in fear (this may happen several times a night and in the morning). The result is that the three of us are completely exhausted pretty much all the time.

According to my partner (and I believe her), this has always been the case, and is completely unconnected to my arrival on the scene (or indeed her father's disappearance from it).

Does anyone have any experience of this and/or suggestions or advice?

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quietlysuggests · 14/10/2013 18:46

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CreatureRetorts · 14/10/2013 20:08

The mum has to want to change things. She could set her up in her own bed in your room as a gradual step then move her to her own room, setting up a camp bed for mum. Give her a cuddly toy and night light and talk to her about her fears.
But I wouldn't suggest it if I were you unless asked because you will be shot down. Offer a sympathetic ear but don't leap to solutions unless asked. Maybe she could ask here herself?

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