DD is 2.5 and at nursery four days a week. Over the past weeks she has increasingly upset at drop off. There is a girl in her group who makes a beeline for her every morning and tries to hug her etc. The girl is younger than DD but physically much bigger - there have been a few instances of DD being bitten and whilst I know the testimony of a two year old is not reliable, DD tells me it is 'Ellie' who bit her (obviously the nursery staff don't name the biter).
However, at a recent party of another child, 'Ellie's' father told me that Ellie often cries herself to sleep at night saying 'no, [DD's name]. I was a bit taken aback and didn't really respond, but in reflection I wish I'd said something as he clearly thinks DD is bullying his daughter. I just muttered something about them being only two and moved on. To this point I had thought it was DD who was being pushed around a little.
The nursery have said the two girls are either best of friends or 'enemies'.
As it happens we are removing DD from the nursery in a few weeks time as we are changing our childcare arrangements partly because of DD's recent upset at going in and partly for practical reasons.
I realise these girls are very young and that this is likely to be one of many playground dramas that I will have to deal with over the coming years, but I wanted to know from more experiences parents whether I should have spoken to Ellie's father further to understand his concerns and how I can ensure DD isn't upsetting others?