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MIL worried about DN

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AbiRoad · 09/10/2013 10:48

MIL has just returned from visting BIL and his family (DH's brother, they live overseas). BIL's youngest is around 18 months old. We have not seen him for a little while and MIL said she was a bit worried about his development but was not sure whether or not to say anything to BIL/SIL (who are very laid back people). I think she is worried about ASD. On the one hand, she does not want to worry/offend them given he is so young (and she has just seen a snapshot). On the other hand, she has done a bit of googling and read that the earlier the intervention the better. So she has asked for my advice. I have no experience of this so thought I would ask here.
Basic issue is that he does not have any words at all at 18 months and only makes 2 or 3 consonant sounds (not including mama or dada). Even with the sounds he has, his babbling is only occasional. What particularly worries her is that she is sure that last time she some him he was babbling a lot more and making more sounds (and we saw him May last term and I am pretty sure he was babbling a fair amount then). He is also very quiet/well behaved and she says it can be quite hard to engage him and get him to smile/giggle etc. I am sure there is a bit more, but those are the main things that have got her a bit worried. She says she spent quite a lot of time talking to him and trying to get him to repeat sounds, but thinks BIL may have been getting a bit cross about it (eg takign it as a criticisim of DN).
BIL has not mentioned any concerns to DH. I wonder if the possibility of a hearing test should be raised (MIL does not think it is that but at least it is a way into a conversation).
Any thoughts?

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ICameOnTheJitney · 09/10/2013 12:42

I had this situation with a close friend of mine. Because her son was her first, she was unaware of his troubles.

He was about 18 months when I noticed that he wasn't engaging at all...and had a lack of speech too.

I didn't say anything...because she wasn't ready to hear it. She was it turns out aware of "something" being amiss but couldn't face up to it...it's a very, very, hard thing for a parent to realise and then accept that their child might not be neuro typical.

When her son reached the age of 2 and a half, she couldn't hide anymore and expressed her concern to me...and I could then support her and advised a hearing test. But bear in mind I saw them weekly...your MIL isn't even in the same country so to suggest a hearing test now might be a bit odd...she should have done it while she was there really.

My friends son is autistic. He's three and a half now and recieving help.

AbiRoad · 09/10/2013 22:16

Thanks, i guess MIL will be best placed to judge how receptive they would be to a comment. Mil stays with them for 4-6 weeks at this time of year as it is the busiest time in their business to help with the kids, so although she does not see them weekly she has just seen him daily for a reasonable length of time. She has just got back and was thinking she could raise it next time they speak in a sort of " I was speaking to my friend Edna and she said her grandson did not speak much at that age and turned out to be glue ear" type way. I think it was the regression that most concerned MIL.

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