Hoe unusual is it for year 6 boys to have sleepovers with year 6 girls?

Ladymuck · 2013-10-04T22:16:06+00:00

I'm guessing this will be that last year for a while, but just wondering if it was very unusual even at this stage?

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ICameOnTheJitney · 05/10/2013 07:50

Do you mean individually or in a gang? I think it's pretty unusual to be honest either way.

Hellonewworld0 · 05/10/2013 07:52

In a large group i would say fine, individually I would probably think that slightly more unusual.

signet · 05/10/2013 08:00

Depends in the context. DS in year 7 had his friend who is a girl to stay over last weekend. They've known each other since 4 and I'm good mates with her mum. They slept in the living room and watched films until they fell asleep.

A random girl though who doesn't have the same relationship? Not likely.

HomicidalPsychoJungleCat · 05/10/2013 10:38

Dd (8) had 3 boys (and 11 girls) to her birthday sleepover this year, not unusual at all. She had a couple of boys who she's good friends with and they'd be welcome e to come to a one on one sleepover.

duchesse · 05/10/2013 10:43

My DC had "sleepovers" through their teens- from age 12ish onwards tended to be in tents in the garden, with separate boys' tents and girls' tents. My children's friends are completely lovely and trustworthy though. A friend of mine had a much less positive experience of tent "sleepovers" with her son.

Depends on the kids, depends on the level of supervision.

TooTiredToBeCreative · 05/10/2013 10:46

My 7 y/o boy regularly has sleepovers with his 8y/o female friend. Her mum and I have been friends for years so they have known each other from birth. Can't see any reason to stop doing it for sometime yet!

Cherrypie32 · 05/10/2013 20:18

DS's friends are nearly a girls. He is 6 this year. His best 'girl' friend slept in our tent with him on holiday this year and I don't see any reason why this would change next year or for awhile. To be honest I think it's a sad old world if this is questionable in this day and age.

Picturesinthefirelight · 05/10/2013 20:30

One of dds new best friends at her new school is a boy. She has been invited to a sleepover. Not sure what to say. He has a lot of friends who are girls.

Cherrypie32 · 05/10/2013 20:34

I wouldn't agree to a sleepover with a random or new friend who's family I didn't know well, boy or girl.

anchovies · 05/10/2013 20:38

DS who is in year 5 regularly has one of his best friends (who is a girl) over to stay and he stays at her house. They snuggle under a blanket watching films together, it's very sweet. I'll be sad when they start thinking it's not the done thing!

I wouldn't feel comfortable with ds staying out overnight anywhere where I didn't really know the family though.

meditrina · 05/10/2013 20:42

It's unusual, but if it's part of say, a mixed birthday party, then it's fine.

One to one is very unusual, because friendship groups are normally quite tightly defined by gender in the pre-pubescent years.

I wouldn't assume it was "questionable" if it happened, thoug. And DD (year 5h has certainly been on mixed sleepovers in the last year.

MrsBazinga · 05/10/2013 20:42

Ds (Y5) often stays over with a good friend of his, a girl (y6). I know her mum well. They are friends. Have never thought anything of it.

Picturesinthefirelight · 05/10/2013 20:47

I've met his mum & the family are lovely. Also there are far far more girls than boys at the new school.

anchovies · 05/10/2013 20:50

In that case pictures I'd have no problems :)

Picturesinthefirelight · 05/10/2013 20:53

At his birthday party there were 2 boys & 3 girls (from hus old school & theatre group) They slept over but dd already had something on.

Dd is very young for her age, can't believe she's 12 today.

StandingInLine · 05/10/2013 21:02

I attended mixed sleepovers from about year 6 right through to the end of secondary school. We all slept in the same room/tent but nothing ever happened we just ate loads, watched Films and gossiped. It wasn't until about year 10 when things started getting frisky between some kids. But these were kids who were going out with each other (not that that makes it right) so wasn't as if it was orgies galore, lol.

StandingInLine · 05/10/2013 21:02

I attended mixed sleepovers from about year 6 right through to the end of secondary school. We all slept in the same room/tent but nothing ever happened we just ate loads, watched Films and gossiped. It wasn't until about year 10 when things started getting frisky between some kids. But these were kids who were going out with each other (not that that makes it right) so wasn't as if it was orgies galore, lol.

StandingInLine · 05/10/2013 21:02

I attended mixed sleepovers from about year 6 right through to the end of secondary school. We all slept in the same room/tent but nothing ever happened we just ate loads, watched Films and gossiped. It wasn't until about year 10 when things started getting frisky between some kids. But these were kids who were going out with each other (not that that makes it right) so wasn't as if it was orgies galore, lol.

StandingInLine · 05/10/2013 21:02

I attended mixed sleepovers from about year 6 right through to the end of secondary school. We all slept in the same room/tent but nothing ever happened we just ate loads, watched Films and gossiped. It wasn't until about year 10 when things started getting frisky between some kids. But these were kids who were going out with each other (not that that makes it right) so wasn't as if it was orgies galore, lol.

StandingInLine · 05/10/2013 21:03

I attended mixed sleepovers from about year 6 right through to the end of secondary school. We all slept in the same room/tent but nothing ever happened we just ate loads, watched Films and gossiped. It wasn't until about year 10 when things started getting frisky between some kids. But these were kids who were going out with each other (not that that makes it right) so wasn't as if it was orgies galore, lol.

StandingInLine · 05/10/2013 21:03

I attended mixed sleepovers from about year 6 right through to the end of secondary school. We all slept in the same room/tent but nothing ever happened we just ate loads, watched Films and gossiped. It wasn't until about year 10 when things started getting frisky between some kids. But these were kids who were going out with each other (not that that makes it right) so wasn't as if it was orgies galore, lol.

StandingInLine · 05/10/2013 21:03

I attended mixed sleepovers from about year 6 right through to the end of secondary school. We all slept in the same room/tent but nothing ever happened we just ate loads, watched Films and gossiped. It wasn't until about year 10 when things started getting frisky between some kids. But these were kids who were going out with each other (not that that makes it right) so wasn't as if it was orgies galore, lol.

StandingInLine · 05/10/2013 21:04

I attended mixed sleepovers from about year 6 right through to the end of secondary school. We all slept in the same room/tent but nothing ever happened we just ate loads, watched Films and gossiped. It wasn't until about year 10 when things started getting frisky between some kids. But these were kids who were going out with each other (not that that makes it right) so wasn't as if it was orgies galore, lol.

ihearsounds · 05/10/2013 21:13

We have mixed sleepovers all the time. Don't see the problem. I trust my dc's. Their mates know my rules.