Greeting my 5 year old to listen

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I have a daughter she just turned 5 years old, but from the time she was 3 years old, she will not listen, even after you tell her 3 times. She thinks its her way and can do what she wants. If she don't get her way or want she wants she will throws Temper tantrums. I am also a single mother. And even if I put her in time out she won't stay there. And if you don't give her what she wants she will get mad. I don't know any other way to get her to listen .

If she doesn't stay in time out - just keep putting her back as many times as it takes and however fed up you get.
Explain to her first why she has to go to time out but then don't say anything each time you put her back.
The tantrum is usually the result of the child knowing you will give in eventually. You can only stop that by never giving in just for the peace!

Agree with what Davsmum says. However, if she's recently started school then she is probably extra tired. If she won't stay put during time out time, is there another method, such as cutting down her screen time?
If she's at school, how does she behave there?

I have found this useful www.amazon.co.uk/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1848123094

Have you had her hearing tested?

Yes she just had her hearing tested before she started kindergarten

Thanks I will Definitely look into getting that book

She behaves good in school, and she really dont watch much tv she likes to read her books

My daughter will also sometimes call me a B but I think she got that from her dad. Her dad and I are not even together anymore and she don't even see her dad. I wish I could get her to stop and also listen better. I should not have to tell her more the 2times to do something or if she gets in trouble to stay in time out. And to stop throwing temper tantrums !

I don't give in to her. She thinks its funny when I try to put her back in time out I tell her why she has to go in time out and she tells me ya right.

Hunger and tiredness are major reasons for tantrums and unreasonableness

After school, children have spent a lot of emotional energy behaving well, and they kind of let loose with their parents

Tell her what you want her to do, not what you don't want her to do.

Lower the pitch of your voice, get down to her level and speak to her as if you have absolute confidence that she will do as you ask.

Ignore minor whinging or arguing - don't engage with it.

I wouldn't give time out for a tantrum - ignore. Tell her you will speak to her when she has calmed down and walk away. Make sure you do speak to her and explain that shouting won't give her what she wants.

Try challenging her to do things eg "I bet I can beat you up the stairs" /"I 'll give you a count of three to get your coat on"

Count backwards from 10 or 5 to get her do do things

Find ways to gain her cooperation that are playful - the book "Playful Parenting" has good ideas

Good kids sometimes don't do what they are told first time. Sometimes it's about how you ask. So make sure your expectations aren't too high

Main thing: Give her loads of praise, attention affection when she is behaving well.

I will ask her nice but sometimes I have to use a firm voice

She gets all kinds of love and attention and she is a really good kid. Just don't like listen but sometimes she will listen. But what I don't get is this my boyfriend only has to tell get once and she listens but with me it takes like 2-4 times

I will try that thank you!