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What does everyone else do???

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BettyBoo246 · 01/10/2013 15:38

Hi my nearly 9 week ds is starting to have less and less sleep in the day, after each feed he will fall sleep and I'll put him in his Moses basket but after 30 mins he'll wake up. My Moses basket is still downstairs with me in the day then we carry him up with us at bedtime at 10pm where he'll sleep in our room in his basket.
What I'm confused about (ftm) is when should I start putting him upstairs for his day naps? If I do surely he will be wide awake by the time I get up the stairs? If the Moses basket now stays upstairs where will I put him when he's downstairs? (doesn't like his bouncer atm) sorry for all the questions I just really don't know when or what to do :/ pls any advice would b greatly appreciated? I wasn't going to start putting him in his cot until he was sleeping thru the nite but should I start putting him in that for his day naps in his nursery?

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KateCroydon · 01/10/2013 16:13

The SIDS (cot death) advice is for babies to be in the same room as you until 6 months - this includes naps.

jimijack · 01/10/2013 16:16

Oh no, keep him in the room with you. Mine is 9 months and sleeps where he falls! Car, pram, sofa, floor. I need to see him breathing.

AnythingNotEverything · 01/10/2013 16:19

Is there any reason why you think he needs to be upstairs for his nap?

PP is right re: SIDS guidance.

Could he go in his pram? He'd be fine on the floor on a blanket or under a playgym (pets allowing of course).

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BettyBoo246 · 01/10/2013 16:39

No I just thought he'd nap better away from the noise of the living room - he wakes up at the drop of a pin so me and dp have to literally tip toe round!
He's not great at just 'dropping off' he's far too alert to fall asleep on playmat or bouncer etc
I know they say to keep them in the same room up to 6 months but I am yet to meet anyone who has done this including friends and family! Plus he wouldn't fit in his Moses basket at 6 months downstairs lol!
We live in a two up two down so don't really have the space to put him another room for naps
Does anyone else av trouble once lo settles to sleep on them then moving to basket without waking up? My ds is such a light sleeper

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minipie · 01/10/2013 20:08

This is totally standard, both the waking on transfer to basket and the waking after 30 mins.

it is important that he gets loads of sleep in the day though (I can't remember the recommendation for this age but think it's c. 5 hours total day sleep and 11+ at night?). some things to try:

don't worry about transferring him, just hold him if he falls asleep on you, until he wakes naturally. make sure tv remote and bottle of water and biscuits and MN are within easy reach before you sit down. worry about napping in basket when he is older.

swaddle him, or wrap him in a blanket before he falls asleep, then transfer to basket still wrapped, means waking is less likely.

transfer to pram instead of Moses basket, means you may be able to rock back to sleep at the 30 min wake up mark, or go for a walk to get him back to sleep. Also means he's downstairs with you, and also means you could even leave the house while he is asleep should you wish.

similar to above, try putting him in pram when he is about to go to sleep and then rocking him the final bit to get him to drop off, then gradually you can reduce amount of rocking and get him to the point where he falls asleep by himself (note: I have never actually tried this but with hindsight this is the method I think I should have used).

IMO it's much more important to get him the right amount of sleep and avoid overtiredness (which is a complete PITA) than it is to worry about where he sleeps. Especially if you have a super alert, 30 minute napper type baby - I have one of these and it was a nightmare trying to get her to do gina ford style self settling basket naps, life got much easier once I accepted that her naps would be in the pram if I wanted them to last more than 30 mins.

froken · 01/10/2013 20:17

I just held my ds whilst he slept, I still cuddle him whilst he naps and he is 9 months old.

At 6 months we started putting him to bed in tge bedroom but up to 6 months he just slept on us in the evenings.

froken · 01/10/2013 20:20

Also we never kept quiet around ds, we spoke normally, listened to music, watched tv whilst ds slept.

AnythingNotEverything · 01/10/2013 20:26

Like Froken I was never quiet around sleeping babies. In the one who encourages new mums to get the Hoover out to get their baby used to noise ...

Not sure I can help!

Bookwolf32 · 01/10/2013 20:34

My 10 month old was a 30 min napper, I just used to make sure every 2 hours I went for a walk or did the hoovering etc whilst she was in the sling. She often slept for a bit longer if she was in the sling.
She has only just started to sleep on her bed for day naps, if we are at home, and I cuddle her to sleep. Still often only sleeps for 30 mins or so.

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BettyBoo246 · 01/10/2013 20:40

Great tips minipie :)
The hv told me to try putting him in basket just before he falls sleep but it's hard trying that with a reflux baby as I have him upright for a good 20 mins after feed and by then he's gone!
I think I will def try the pram and then can leave basket upstairs.
At the start we did try making noise well just carrying on as normal but from the get go he woke up at slightest noise! Does anyone think it's too late to try this again whilst he's asleep?

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Helenc19 · 02/10/2013 04:01

Hi, my DS is also a light sleeper and wakes easily, I have found white noise really helps block out background noise, I downloaded a free app with rain sounds which I put on to help him go to sleep and stay asleep

minipie · 02/10/2013 09:09

ah, reflux means most of the usual "sleep in basket" advice won't work I'm afraid... sling or pram is your friend. or if it's really bad, naps on you, semi upright, until he grows out of the reflux. white noise good idea too, you can get soft toys that play white noise eg Ewan the dream sheep if you want something that can sit in the pram/basket with him, or you can download onto iPod.

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BettyBoo246 · 02/10/2013 11:21

Oo will av a look for Ewan the sheep lol!
Yes reflux generally means nothing is normal practice as I'm learning!
He's just fell sleep on his playmat for this first time ever but again only did half hour. He always does sleep longer on me, like an hour to two, just means nothing gets done round the house lol!
I will try him in his pram after he's spent 20mins on me and see how that goes, I can try him in the kitchen but as it's a small house don't think it would make much difference noise wise

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ButteryJam · 02/10/2013 12:05

Why don't you get a baby monitor? Then you don't need to worry about putting him upstairs whilst you are downstairs.

AnythingNotEverything · 02/10/2013 13:57

Buttery - a monitor won't reduce the SIDS risk, it would only alert you more quickly if they were crying.

superzero · 02/10/2013 14:00

My baby is 7months.He has all his naps downstairs in the pushchair.This fits in with what we are doing,school run,walks to and from town, avoids need for monitor and avoids disturbing him to go out of the house for the above.
I also did this with my other 2.
I only started using the cot for daytime naps at about a year.

nickelbabe · 02/10/2013 14:42

definitely keep in the same room and you, even for daytime naps.

he needs to get used to the noise of daily life, that way, (the theory is anyway!) he's less likely to wake up when noises happen when he's asleep

ps : don't panic, it'll be fine :)

TwerkingNine2FIve · 02/10/2013 16:07

I kept all mine in the same room as me as they would only sleep on me (after a lot of fighting and rocking them to sleep) DS1 only ever napped on me until he gave up naps altogether when he was 3 (handily enough when DS2 arrived and needed my lap to sleep on too!) DS2 and DS3 started to put up in their cots when I stopped having to rock or feed them to sleep when they were about 10 months old. DS4 only ever napped on the sofa, DS5 went up to his cot upstairs at about 12 months. Hasn't done them any harm and they all slept through perfectly well in their own beds at night from around 7 months. I liked having them nap on me or next to me!

TartyMcTart · 02/10/2013 21:36

See, I was someone who liked that time when they were napping to get jobs done. Much as though the cuddles were lovely, I couldn't have done with the babies sleeping on me for every nap.

My two slept in their moses basket for the first few weeks then by 3-4 months they were sleeping upstairs in the cot. The same went for at night, by 12 weeks they'd outgrown the basket so slept in their own room in the cot.

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