bed weeting three.5 year old - driving me mad

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ds1 has been toilet trained for ages(if I can remember rightly since before he was two he started, with usual trouble when it came to poo but that all has come good now), however, I followed advice on here and kept up with the nighttime nappy until he was ready, and this was about january time (he was 3 in december).

He told me he was a bog boy and didn't need a nappy, and initially did very well with very few accidents, now tho, there is not one night when he doesn't piddle then bed at least twice, the washing machine is on constantly and he even gets in to my bed when I have run out of sheets and does it there!!

My mother in law (who's children were all potty trained by one!!!) has said its because I don't tell him off when he does it, and thats its my fault as I am making him lazy by lifting him on to the toilet before I go to bed.

I am not about to bo**ock him for doing this, I think it would be wrong, but do I need to firmer and tell him how disapointed I am - as it is he lies and says he spilt milk/drink when I ask.

Any advice welcome

Don'y take any notice of your mother in law. It is very common for a 3 year old to wet the bed even if he has been dry in thee day for sometime. It is common for a child to be wting the bed up tp 7. That is why enuresis clinics won't se a child uuntil they are over 7.
My 14 year old daughte has only just sopped wetting the bed, she has been under the enuresis clinic for this. The clinic told me that night weting is completly differnt to day wetting. And that a child should never be told off for it.
Just put him into pull ups and relax he will get there in the end.

He's still pretty young to be reliable at night. He may well be drinking more now that summer is here, sleeping heavier but shorter hours and just not wake in time. Bawling him out solves nothing but it isn't your mil changing the bed every night. Lifting seems to be a lot of hassle and not a long term solution.

Would he prefer to wear a pull up or reusable trainer pants and take the pressure and stress of disappointment off, or if not use a washable top mat as Secur mentioned. dd(4) still uses a Pampers mat and has an accident max once a month.

We are having the same problem with 3.5 yr dd she was dry at night for ages after being the last in her "peer" group to be dry in the day, then all of a sudden she started to wet the bed again. she is now back in nappies and they are sodden in the morning so no advice because I can't suss it out either, but lots of sympathy

DD who will be 5 in feb used to be dry day and night till her little brother arrived in September. Now she is wet 9 out of 10 nights. She has gone back into nappies at her own request prior to this I was using two plastic sheets and just stripping the top one of and letting her climb back into a nice dry bed.

Would it be worth asking you HV to chat to MIL regarding her concerns over his bed wetting? I am sure that if you wanted her to she would politely but firmly tell her to back off if MIL's input isn't helping.

Try leaving books regarding development open on chapters regarding what can reasonably be expected of you little one lying around for DP and MIL to find and hopefully read!