When did my dd turn into verruca salt???????

[Beauregard]

Had a horrible day today!
Has there ever been one defining moment or act that has made you question your parenting?
I think we may have ruined our once sweet little angel!She used to be so very lovely and today dp and myself got our just dessert's .

How old is she?

4 -she will be 5 in november.

What has she done?

Funnily enough I was wondering exactly that same thing yesterday, I even told dd she sounded like verrucca salt! she's just about to turn 4 and was most put out, she quit the tantrum though!

About 2 weeks ago dp couldn't resist buying her one of those big trampolines for the garden cos it was a really cheap deal.She has alway's loved them so we thought she would be over the moon ..........but nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!
She has only been on it a handful of times and each time if we aren't stood in front of her watching her perform etc then she just screams and cries,on top of this she cannot decide whether to be on it or not ,resulting in one of us constantly lifting her in and shutting the enclosure!
so it happened again this afternoon (dd2 was also screaming due to teething)so we threatened to take it back and she said .."ok i want it to"
She was so spoilt and ungrateful ,laughed at dp as he was dismantling it,and even asked him if he would like a hand!!!!!!!!!!!!GGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
She has really upset us and dp actually felt sick with anger!
We have alway's enjoyed treating her but no more!

Forgot to say,when dp was taking it down ,one of the pole sleeves ripped!

Perhaps she was a bit scared? I know what it's like though, mine have done things like that!

No believe me dd doesn't do scared.

she's too little for a trampoline

don't go hard on her

it's hard when kids don't have the reaction that we expected, I think the disappointment can be a lot to take when we thought they would love something and it turns out they're not fussed about it either way.

Is it possible you've been over encouraging her to go on the trampoleen because you wanted to see the joy/happyness of her constantly wanting to go on it and you've maybe pushed it just a bit too much? tbh I would have left it and let her go on it when she wanted to, and if she wanted you to watch her "perform" just said that you couldn't watch now but that you would later but for her to have fun anyway.

Remember she's only 4, and that she doesn't understand gratitude in the way that adults do, especially if as you say she is spoiled, she has no concept of being grateful/thankful for the things she receives, as she receives so many of them iyswim?

I do totally sympathise though as have been there, but I think experience has taught me that kids seldom react in a way that we expect.

I do also agree with enid in that she is far too young for one of those big trampoleens.

Sounds like the trampoline wasn't a good idea but that doesn't mean your dd is spoiled or deliberately being horrid. What's wrong with wanting mummy and daddy to see you doing something new and exciting (and possibly a bit scary too)? Children do change their minds and get on and off stuff repeatedly. It's all part of learning and trying out new stuff. Plus the expectation of something and then the actual experience can be very different. You might think 'wow, I'd really like that' but when it arrives feel nervous or find out you don't enjoy it as much as you think. Plus children don't have adult reasoning, obviously, or an adult understanding of the world.

I think Enid's right you are expecting a bit much of her at 4yo. And I think you are transferring your own feelings of frustration onto her. You are disappointed it didn't work out the way you expected but your disappoinment is not her fault.

I didn't over encourage her,she always instigated going on it herself.
The recommended age for the trampoline was 6 but,dd is very tall for her age and will be 5 in november so we figured it would be ok!

So i guess that's me severley reprimanded

It's easy to overestimate the capabilities of your children, I've done it lots of times. Don't feel bad.

Sometimes i wonder if i know my own mind let alone my dd's.