DD (4.5) fascinated with 'private parts'... tell me she's not the only one please!

[MrsBigD]

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Have no issue with her talking about 'bits' etc. as it's part of the body. And she's known that boys and girls are different since we've had ds and also we do share baths etc.

Now picture this conversation:

DD: I saw John's (not his real name) bits and pieces today
Me: oh? did you walk in on him on the toilet?
DD: no it was in the playground (nursery)
Me: How come you saw his b&p's?
DD: he dropped his trousers
Me: was he going for a pee?
DD: no, I told him to do it

Well I didn't know whether to or go WTF?

I know at that age they discover and amongst other things (like finding the word poo most hilarious and applying it to anything) discovering the differences is probaly normal. So not too worried yet.

However, not sure whether to mention the 'incident' to the teachers. I didn't pick dd up today but my nanny said the teachers didn't mention anything.

Any input highly appreciated.

IIRC, frogs had a very good phrase for use in these circumstances - I'll have a look.

oh thanks!

england flag it was brilliantly put Thanks

I have no moral issues at all we're very liberal but I'm fully aware that not all parents might be, especially religious ones or from other ethnic backgrounds.

I keep telling dd that 'privates are private'. And nobody is allowed to touch besides her, us (parents) and the doctor if we take her there.

And so far she was only being a bit of an exhibitionist and 'groper' at home. She really likes washing ds's bits when they're in the bath together. I don't make a fuss about it because obviously she sees me washing him... I usually just say please don't do this you might hurt him...

Ah well I guess yet another phase . I just dread her saying things like that in public! Wouldn't that just be a 'oh ground please open and swallow me' moment?!

" "Bottoms are private, you shouldn't show other people your pants or your bottom, and nobody else should touch your bottom."

Do you tell them anything else to convince them, DS seems to understand the sentence but has not changed his behaviour. I don't want to make an issue of it but...

Hi Chandra, it's nice to see I'm not alone One thing I did notice with dd is if I make a fuss she'll do it even more... wonder whether I should mention it to his mother? Problem there being... dd gave me a name, but there's 2 boys with that name at nursery.

I wouldn't mention it unless you are visiting her... she can not do anything anyway, but tell the nursery staff... thinking of it... I should tell them too!

Now that's going to be an interesting conversation with the staff . Last time I spoke to them about dd, because she was being very difficult at home they told me she's ever so well behaved, helpful, friendly etc. at nursery. I'm sure they've got a changeling!

I fear their response, last time I spoke to them about being concerned about my child being always bullied in playgrounds they told me he was giving a child a bad time . Having said that, the other child was DS's tormentor throughout babyhood.(but has laways been his best friend! )

DD had a case of 'bullying' as well not too long ago. One of the other boys was monopolising one of the girls dd really likes and pushed dd around/over. Seems like he's having 'issues' with concentrating on more than one friend at a time so whoever he's focused on that moment is not allowed another friend... that got sort of resolved though because I just told dd if he upsets her to a) tell the teacher and b) find someone else to play with.

As for the 'pants' episode... well if that boy is the one I think he is he can be quite boistrous. Didn't have him down as the type who does as he's told . then again she might just have made it up. No way of knowing.