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3 toddlers, one mother working PT and feeling on the verge ....

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Caterpillars · 18/09/2013 13:32

Here goes - I am really reaching the end of my tether and feel as though I don't want to have anything to do with my kids at the moment. Twin boys of 3.5 and DS3 aged 2. DS1 is becoming a bully, if he has an episode DS2 hurts DS1 who then clings onto me crying. I am finding dealing with the discipline of DS1 and DS2 very tough when DS1 is so upset.

Should I put them all in cages? Boarding school? I dread the morning routine, I hate putting them in front of the TV to keep them still, and am getting absolutely nothing done, including feed them proper meals as I am always firefighting. I am so very tired I want to cry.

Does anyone else ever feel like this?

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gretagrape · 18/09/2013 13:52

No advice as I've never been in your situation, but do you have a partner/family who could help out in practical ways at least - eg, take the kids once a week while you cook a load of healthy freezer meals so all you have to do is reheat them? One less thing to think about then.

By the way I have often felt like this and I only have 1 6mo!

CreatureRetorts · 18/09/2013 14:27

Are they in preschool?

I would avoid labelling one a bully - hes only 3. How about teaching them both tactics for dealing with the other and letting them get on with it. why does ds1 lash out? Is it for attention?

capecath · 18/09/2013 15:56

Wow, I have two boys, age 3 and 1 and I find that hard enough! What does your routine look like? Do they sleep ok at night? Do you have playgroups you can get to? What kind of things does ds1 do that seems like bullying? I'd try and be strict and consistent with some kind of sharing rules, immediate time out if doesn't listen before ds2 has chance to hurt, but ds2 shouldn't be allowed to hurt his brother without at least an apology, even if he is provoked...

Igloofornow · 18/09/2013 16:00

I had 3 under 4 last year and it was the hardest year of my life. I spent a lot of time at toddler groups and the park, it dilutes the noise. I have cone to hate the playroom, it's like a wrestling ring.

I can't say this year is much better tbh, I'm going back to work PT soon, just for a day off

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