5.5 yr old let her friend prod her in the face - i am worried by this

[theburrowers]

at a small funfair yesterday and saw a girl and her family who my daughter is at school with. sat on a bench and they are interacting (could hear what was said) all is ok but then the girl prodded my daughter in the face about 3 times before i said don't do that. after i tried to ask my daughter and she said it did not hurt.

the thought she would let other people do that to her upsets me.

she squabble with her 4 yr old sister and is loud at home but as one charming friend put it when they were both a lot smaller - they are passive, i think she wanted to say placid but passive is not a very nice trait. both of them certainly always used to let other toddlers take toys of them and that upset me a lot.

any thoughts?

sorry - did not hear what was said

I was sad when my infant DS got pushed around - he looked surprised and baffled - we taught him to play nicely and share toys etc but there's always the pushy kid (boy or girl) who wants to be top dog. In time they all adapt to the world outside home, we can't always be present when they're mingling. We have to trust they'll recall how we teach them to get along. If your DD knows and trusts this other girl she will likely humour her. If she gets a rougher playmate or neighbour coming along she may react differently.As she gets older you can raise the issue of how to respond if anyone - child or especially an adult - makes her uncomfortable or ill at ease.

I wonder why it bothered you so much. Fwiw if she saw anyone picking on her younger sister she could very well stand up for her if that is what worries you.

I have read more threads here about parents anxious their DCs are too confrontational or liable to flare up.

I think you shouldn't read too much into it.

Tell her that if she is uncomfortable by another person's actions to say "please stop that" or if not to move away.