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What should we do about our baby's seperation anxiety?

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froken · 15/09/2013 10:48

Ds is nearly 9 months old. He has recently become very sad when I (mum) leave the room.

Me and ds have been staying at my parent's house for a week dp had to stay at home for work. It seems that ds's anxiety about being left developed whilst we were away.

Dp has always been very involved with parenting ds, dp gets up in the morning with ds at the weekend and he gives him his bedtime bath. This weekend when dp and ds have been up and I have been attempting to have a lie in I could here ds constantly crying, more a whingy cry than an upset cry, I got up and cuddled him and he was fine.

I still breastfeed ds but he could easilly go a couple of hours without a feed whilst dp looked after him before he became anxious about me not being around.

We have tried me and dp playing with ds together and then me slowly moving away and sitting on the sofa but ds just crawls over to me.

I am supposed to be starting a course at the end of the month and the plan was that dp would have ds a couple of hours everyday, I just think this is going to be awful for all of us is ds is still not happy with dp.

Ds has been a really happy, easy baby up till now so we are not usedto hearing him cry.

What should we do? Should I delay starting this course till ds is a little more settled?

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LouisaJF · 15/09/2013 10:54

It's a typical time for them to start this. I know what it's not what you want to hear, but persevere. When you him he cry you have to resist the urge to wade in and give him a cuddle. Eventually he'll realise your DP is just as good, but if you go in there, he'll do it more and more to get mummy. I was terrible for this, but eventually MIL sent me out of the house to prove when I came back DS was perfectly happy.

It's not a phase that lasts too long, but you have to resist making him more dependent on you.

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