5yr old like two different children, normal behaviour?

[TheBreastmilksOnMe]

My son who's nearly 5 is, on the whole a lovely boy, kind, considerate, funny, observant and shows a lot of maturity for his age but other times he can be hyper, excitable, impulsive, doesn't listen and gets me so cross he is almost undisciplanable.

Today he had a swimming lesson in a group and refused to get out of the pool at the end. He was cheeky, pulling tongues, splashing water at me and the life guards and spitting. Eventually got him out, the hyper behaviour continued to the changing rooms, I threatened him several times with losing a privilege ( his art and craft session tomorrow) if he didn't sort out his behaviour, he didn't so he lost the privilege and cried all the way home.

This behaviour happens regularly he is just high sprites and has a lot of energy and I find him hard work sometimes as well as feeling like I don't have much control over him. I was wondering if this was normal, will he grow out of it and am I doing the right thing by removing privileges when he misbehaves?

Oh don't flounce on behalf of one twatty ( me ) posters opinion! I think the combination of your user name ( twee ) and the pushing of a 'course' and the fact it's a first post made me think you were spamming. Apologies that this wasn't the case

Devoted- please don't go I value your opinion and input and its good to hear a different perspective. I must admit I didn't understand your response Cressida, to devoteds post but I was hoping it would become clearer. I've been looking at courses in my area and couldn't come up with anything, can you possibly point me in the right direction devoted?

You've been through a rough time and you've posted a reason really thoughtful response Devotedvoted, please don't go, we're a nice bunch on the whole I don't think Cress meant to cause you offense.

Hello again

@ cressida I accept your apology.

@ BreastmilksOnMe Thank you for your post. Like I said the course really helped me and taught me strategies and different ways to communicate with dd. I really wish you could go on it but since you cant would you like me to post some of what i learned? Of course I dont know you or your son and everybody is different so i can only say what worked for ME. But its worth a try right?

dd behaviour is not perfect (what child is) but her behaviour is not so unmanageble that I need to post online for advice like I did MANY times before in the past! thats the goal you should focus on just getting his behaviour managable. It will get better. I promise

My daughter used to kick,hit,spit,bite and thats just for starters. she almost never complied with what i asked and everyday was a battle if she can change any child can! the course never made me feel inadequate in any way they just kept stressing that no child comes with a manual and we just needed some new strategies They was also teaching us the pyschology behind the childrens behaviour. you gotta get inside their little heads u see! it was also said that they see 100s of parents with the same complaints and that our children are not "bad" or "adhd" they are just testing boundries. of course im aware some children are generally adhd im not dismissing that nor am i suggested I KNOW your child isn't. just my humble opinion

sorry for my spelling im tired. school run tommorow got a pile of dishes before bed (joy) perhaps we could speak about this again tommorow. nite