Affects of arguing on new born

[Sharran1]

Hi all, we have a 6 week old baby, our first baby and although we love our little boy more than anything adapting to parenthood has put a strain on mine and my husbands relationship, we tend to argue most of the time and raise our voices at each other (never ever at our little boy), although I know we shouldn't and we are trying not to I was just wandering is this arguing likely to affect our little boy at this early stage? I know its not right and like I said we are trying not to but I am really worried that it has had an impact on him, any sensible advice or input would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Your baby will be fine. Sleep deprivation and having a baby is really hard on a relationship- we always argued more when we were tired. Make sure you both get some time out- try to take shifts so you both get sleep. Get out for a walk in the fresh air and breathe deeply :)

We had terrible rows during dd's first year. She is three now and a very happy girl . We did struggle becoming parents and we almost had to tear apart our relationship and re-build it during that year if that makes sense. We are great now so hang in there.

The will be no effect on him at all. It's just another noise to him.

This is a turbulent time for you and raised voices isn't unexpected. It takes an awful lot more than that to harm a child.

What's important right now is that your baby is given copious amounts of affection, is fed and clean and builds up responsive relationships with his parents.

You're doing all that, I'm sure, and he'll be fine

We had some pretty torrid times too during that first year, mainly to do with finding our feet and some middle ground on our parenting styles. Ds is 3 in November and as a family we are now very dtrong and happy, with the occasional blip. Ds is happy, healthy, bright, articulate and compassionate as well as extremely confident. I worry more now when things get more heated because he's old enough to understand more. It won't hurt your baby, but do try to limit her exposure to it now as it's good practice for the future.

Sorry, his exposure I mean.