toddler tantrums driving me crazy!

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DS is 2.6yo and has always been a cry baby. He's not really able to verbalise his needs and I suppose this fustration is behind his behaviour.

We're outside in the wet half an hour a ago. I go in. He wants to stay out with me. Cue crying. I wait inside for it to stop - it never does and didn't this time. After 5mins or so, I go out, he's in a state. I bring him in for his nap. Doesn't want a nap. Cue hysterical crying again. I read to him in bed. Absolutely fine. Get up to leave. Hysterical crying. He's still doing it . If he doesn't stop in a while, I'll have to go in and sit with him till he goes to sleep.

^ this is a daily occurance. Happens at least 2/3 times morning and then again in the evening. Does this ever end? How can I manage his behaviour better?

Cup of tea for you.

There are some good techniques in The Happiest Toddler on the Block.

It does get easier ( you start to be built of Teflon. ) I mean to say they get older.

DD is 2 and has tantrums about similar things. Inside/outside, naps, etc. her big one though is waking up from her nap and she's soo grumpy and contradictory. Wants up, wants back in her cot, wants me to hold her, doesn't.
Her verbal skills are quite good but it doesn't help with tantrums since even she doesn't know what she wants.
I tend to just try and sit them out and if I sense a break I try to get in with distraction or a hug. It helps me to understand that her tantrums are just a developmental, physical manifestation of an inability to deal with emotions and I try to be patient and not take it personally. It's tough sometimes though.
I hope they improve or you are better able to cope. I feel your pain.

Thanks for your messages. Today's been somewhat better. I worry if I'm doing the right thing - letting him cry for a good while before intervening. DH won't stand any crying and will just distract/pick up and comfort whereas I try to do battle.

It sometimes feels like he (DS) is an alien . A lovely one though .