2.2 YO bedtime issues

[DaffodilsandSnow]

I'm sure there has been plenty of threads similar to this but would like some (any) objective thoughts. My son has always been a very difficult sleeper. He has always woken in the night but we can deal with this now. Bedtimes are another issue. I have an older child just starting Reception and so i now more than ever want bedtimes to be calm and for her not to take secind place just because she needs less input.

My son becomes incredibly distressed if we are out of sight whilst he is falling asleep. Last week in a last ditch attempt I tried putting him to bed, story etc then coming downstairs. It took 1.5-2 hrs each night of returning him to his bed and he was very distressed, sobbing, choking (he has asthma so this always worries me). Eventually after 2 hours most nights of constant returns to his bed he did eventually fall asleep. I'm often on my own at bedtime and I can't do this for the length of time it is taking.

I don't want him to become so distressed for this length of time at bedtime but I can't lie with him as my daughter would then not get any mummy time of her own at bedtime.

Ahh I don't really have any advice but didn't want your thread to go unnoticed, I have all the sympathy for you. My dd1 was like this, although ups have it the other way round, dd2 goes down fine, dd1 needs all the attention.

The only thing I can think of is possibly letting him come with you to put dd to bed? Then out him to bed and you can stay ith him? Although not ideal, and your dd won't get mummy time just being you. But short of cutting yourself in 2, I don't know. It's tears your heart out to leave them to cry when all your cptrying to do is the right thing. :(

Off topic, how old was he when diagnosed with asthma? How do you treat it? I'm just wondering as my dd2 might have it, but docs won't diagnose it and I'm struggling to keep it at bay in this slightly colder weather. I'm using ventolin with a spacer but considering getting my own nebuliser

Thanks for your post, that is what I think I'm going to have to do, fairer all round. You know when you can't see the woods for the trees!

He was diagnosed formally at 2, we are waiting to see the Asthma Nurse but so far have just managed with a spacer and the blue and or brown pumps depending on severity.

Do they go to bed at the same time? Could they share a bedroom, then he's not on his own?

They could share a room but he is not a good night time sleeper so fear he would disturb his sister in the night. It is something I have wondered about though.

Could you take them both into your bed for a cuddle and a story, then the dd goes into her own bed and you go in with ds until he's asleep?