i cant take being shouted at ...for what seems like, everything!!

[lunarx]

ds, now almost 2, is shouting a lot more than he did. for everything. about anything. i give him attention when he is playing nicely yet he still will shout at me for attention. we have an active social life and go out for walks twice daily.

i knew the tantrums would get worse with age and i do try to distract him before it takes hold and that often works! (for now!)

but somedays, i dont feel like i can cope with him constantly pulling on me, shouting at me and wanting ME there constantly. i do my best to ignore it when i feel it needs ignoring, but at the end of the day, im just worn down. (and i dont want to leave him to watch TV all the time, either.) i feel like i am doing all i can to keep him happy.
and its not enough. (no doubt this is a typical feeling, but on days like today when the shouting has been seemingly non-stop since 7.30am when his dad left for work..im at my wits end..(it doesnt help that i am having martial problems that are wearing me down in the evenings, so at night its problems with dh and during the day its ds:( )

sigh.. sorry for the rant ladies..
any help or anything is appreciated.... (

im in the same boat wiht Jessica. She is 2 next month. There is no let up with her at the moment.

It seems to be a lot of jealousy towards Becky but I cant help having to feed and involve her too.

Jessica cant stand it if Becky is anywhere near her, or touches her or plays with her toys.... and im at my wits end too!

Sympathies mate... will be watching for hints myself x

i guess the first thing i need to do is get ahold of my reactions to Calvin. he's 2. i'm 29. i shouldn't be acting like a toddler towards him. but i dont think any mom can give her ALL, ALL the time. (myth deflated, supermom doesnt exist.)
i've spoke to my HV about this and she's said to ignore the shouting, but dh wont ignore it (so its inconsitent for ds and he ends up confused.) i dont think there is anything 'wrong' with ds, and he's not a quiet shouter either!

sigh... our 10am playgroup cant come soon enough this morning!

aw lunarx, so sorry to hear you are having it so tough atm. Have no advice now but am sending you some ((((((((hugs))))))) to bolster you up.

Mixing is probably a good thing - can dilute the problem! Can you invite a friend over for coffee with another toddler to play with?

hi miaou, i was thinking about you the other day! how is the little one??:)

:hugs: thank you....

we have frequent playdates with local friends and their toddlers. at their houses and at ours. luckily getting out is the only thing that keeps me sane sometimes! i just need to try and understand more and not be so wrapped up in how his shouting is making me feel and try to see more WHY he is shouting....

It's an horrendous phase to get through. The only good thing about it is that it passes.

thank you SSSandy!

that is one thing i forgot to remind myself:

This Too Shall Pass.

in fact, i am going to make a sign and hang it on the wall where i can see it to remind myself!

yes, the MN mantra - It's Just a Phase, It's Just a Phase (repeat ad nauseum)

i think sometime he is shouting for attention, because he wants something he cant have (say, another biscuit)... its a very frustrated shout. i will try asking him to ask me quietly or nicely. anything is worth trying! :) :)

glad your ds is doing well!!!!:):):)