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running away/not stopping

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cgmurray · 04/09/2013 19:11

hi my dd who is 2 months off 3yr is constantly running away , im at my wits end and have tried various things i dont want to use reins as i believe she needs a bit of freedom in a safe environment but she just doesn't stop at all even when she cant see me.
help musnettters pls

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LynetteScavo · 04/09/2013 19:15

Then you need to keep a very close eye on her, and run after her.

There is no magic solution. I'm guessing you've talked to her about it.

Is it sudden, random running?

Sirzy · 04/09/2013 19:16

So you would rather let her run off than use reins? How strange!

Freedom is great, but if she is running off and not listening that it isn't safe.

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cgmurray · 04/09/2013 19:29

Sirzy
in the street or in town she is always on reins, but in a large field or park im trying to teach her to stop when i shout/call her, tried the games tried rewards and no rewards but nothing im doing is working

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cgmurray · 04/09/2013 19:31

LynetteScavo
its a game to her as she is laughing her head off and totally ignoring me until i catch up with her
she is a bit spirited

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CreatureRetorts · 04/09/2013 19:33

Have you tried the same thing over and over again?

Ds is a runner. I take him out on his scooter - if he scoots off he has to hold my hand and walk immediately. It's taken a lot of drilling in but he can now stop when I tell him too.

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cgmurray · 04/09/2013 19:36

yes thats what i do and i explain to her that until she stops when i call her she has to walk and hold my hand
that works fine then she does it again hopefully she will listen tonight she was hysterical cos i wouldnt let go off her hand

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Ledkr · 04/09/2013 19:39

I have a runner. I am constantly running after her or fighting her into the buggy.
My mate had one too, I only used to see the back of her on days out. I felt a bit judgey until I had my own.

Sirzy · 04/09/2013 19:40

She is still tiny. Keep her close to you or in a pram until she is old enough to understand. It sounds to me like you are expecting too much for her age.

Ledkr · 04/09/2013 19:41

Mine laughs as she runs too. Like a little giggling dynamo.
I'm often laughing too as I'm running after her boobs a bouncing.
I'm far too elderly for all this malarkey.

rrreow · 04/09/2013 21:43

When we're in a place and go after DS he thinks it's a game and will go further and further. But if we just stay put then he'll be off for a while, but will come back. Could you try that?

Fazerina · 05/09/2013 09:30

My DS is like that as are most of my friends' kids of similar ages. When we go to parks, we never get a chance to finish a sentence, as we're constantly running after LOs, it's pure madness! Yesterday, I was at a park with a friend and her DS, 2.8. At one point we said we should go into this playground area at the park, because being in the open space just spurred them on. It did help a bit, as at least then they were running in circles in a closed area

MiaSparrow · 05/09/2013 13:27

Reins are great! Even if they're just there to use as a threat. DD loves hers - the ones with the back pack.

Otherwise you'll just have to reinforce that if she runs off again she HAS to go back in the buggy/hold your hand/go on the reins.

Why not set some rules - if she can't see you then she's gone too far.

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