9 year old playing sexual games

[reikizen]

Not sure if this is the right place but just looking for some different perspectives on the appropriateness of this really. A friend of mine reported that her dd (9) was playing happily with playmobil but one thing led to another and it ended up with a violent robbery and the man playmobil 'having sex' with the female playmobil. The mum thought this was funny and I didn't say anything to her but I'm not sure I feel that's appropriate. Especially as I already have some concerns about an inappropriate relationship between this girl and the male parent of another girl. Am I being naive?

I'd be concerned too but if the mum isn't taking it seriously, where can you go? Is her dad about? How well do you know them? How about bringing it up in converstaion next time you meet up?

What about the relationship between this girl & the male parent? Is this something you could report to her school?

I don't think you're being naive at all, it's not appropiate behaviour for a 9 year old. And i would be seriously worried about where she's getting these ideas.

It would make me feel uneasy and set some alarm bells off. I know some 9 year olds out there would be aware what sex is, but not sure it would be normal to incorporate it into their play, especially in that scenario. Surprised the mother found it funny. I think there's a lot to be said for instincts. I'm not really sure what the best thing to do is. Hopefully someone will be along with some good advice soon.

Gobsmacked the mother is not concerned - I don't think that is normal play at age 9.

Also what do you mean by inappropriate relationship? That sounds very concerning.

Out would make me think she has had access to video games such as grand theft auto more than anything else tbh. Not sure what you can do if mum isn't concerned.

It not out

I would want to know where she was seeing that behaviour to copy it.

You can make an anonymous call to social services if you are concerned - particularly if you don't feel you can raise it with mum.

DD2 certainly knew what sex was at 9, I told her when she was 7. Also she played SIMs for hours and you can tell them to "have Woohoo and try for a baby".

Playmobil was her other obsession, but I don't think she ever had her playmobil people have sex.

Sex shouldn't be interesting when your nine, but cute babies are. SIms have to have sex to make babies (well actually you can adopt too), playmobil babies already exist.

Which is a roundabout way of wondering why this DD is doing something that even if she knows about it and most 9y do would not be something you felt a need to act out. In fact all the 9y I know, know enough about sex to find it very

Would the mother have mentioned it to you because subconsciously (or not quite so) thought it was odd and was running it by you for confirmation of what to do....

I think we all have a responsibility to protect children. Without knowing more, I suggest you ring childline for advice?

My sindy doll used to have sex with my neighbour's action man

General play that could be considered sexual isn't all that abnormal at that age. My best friend and I played barbies that had sex and had babies from the time we were 8 onward--we had whole soap opera storylines with our barbies. And unbeknownst to us, my mum had hidden a baby monitor in my room so she and my friend's mum could hear everything we were doing.

Now we know why it seemed like they laughed nonstop whenever they got together; 'cuz we were so goofy. Apparently our rudimentary attempts at cursing were pretty amusing, too.

So, no, I don't think sexual oriented games are TOO much cause for worry, it's the age group, they're naturally curious and exploratory at that age.

However, your comment about having concerns about an inappropriate relationship with another child's male parent does concern me--what exactly do you mean by that? I would be much more worried about real world interactions than playacting with toys.

I would personally not be very worried if this is as far as it goes. Some children do play silly games involving sex, and as a PP says computer games such as Sims allow the player to make the characters have sex, which the children don't seem to mind at all. This on it's own is still within the realms of ordinary innocent play

If she was showing further sexualised behaviour, I would feel differently. Also if during this playing with the Playmobil she was using very sexual language, showing a knowledge of anything sexual much beyond the basic mechanics, or simulating anything beyond vaginal intercourse, I might also have concerns. However displaying that kind of knowledge does not necessarily mean the child is being abused by an adult - children that age can easily stumble across pornography etc if they are poorly supervised, or if close friends/relatives are often using sexualised language or talking about sex, it can be picked up

All that said, keep monitoring their play just in case, and do ask for advice if you have concerns, especially concerns about her relationship with an adult