I haven't NC for this but I might after as I know this makes me a terrible person and mother. I have two DC's 5 and 2. I just physically pushed my 5 year old over on to her bum for being naughty. I'm in my room crying while DH parents downstairs. I can't parent.
DC is 5 and has been a nightmare. It started with her interrupting others, talking incessantly and narrating her life like she just couldn't be quiet. We explained to her that its not nice to interrupt others, to wait her turn and rewarded her when things got a little better but they never have for more than two hours at a time. This started a year and a half ago.
Since then she's been terrible and I've literally read and tried all the parenting tips in the book and I've asked social services to help who've sent family support from Barnados who have just said to keep trying. She is so destructive and will rip books up or draw on walls. When the books and pens are gone she'll physically take apart her bed. She opens all her drawers so every night her clothes are strewn around the room. She has pulled down the curtain rail and curtains leaving holes in the wall.
Last week she climbed on a chair and pillows and found my permanent markers which she drew all over herself and the PVC frame of our windows with (rented house). She would eat all the food in the fridge and crumble up what she didn't want all over the floor so we've had to put padlocks on all doors except her room and the bathroom that we have to lock at night or when not in use.
The worst part is she's now pooing on her carpet and covering it with clean clothes. This has happened eight or nine times and her bedroom is next to the bathroom. She keeps saying it came suddenly but doesn't know why she didn't tell us or why she hid it and that it's so hard to be good. We've explained, praised and treated for days that she's not done it and know its not a problem with her holding it in as many times this past week she's waited to get to a toilet.
I am at my wits end. Everything is destroyed from my make up to clothes to food...when we lock it away she destroys something else. We have a happy, stable home life and both DC's get treated the same. We have tried every trick in the book even up to bribing for over a month a time for continuity and nothing.
I'm so sorry this is long but I have no family support and the ones I have are no help. I don't want to be around her it's gotten so bad and I stay up at night crying wondering what the hell I've done so wrong and how to fix it. She's a beautiful, bright, intelligent child that Id die for but I don't know what to do.