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Who replaced by little girl with a demon????

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brisbabe · 28/08/2013 15:59

My little girl is 30 months and until last week was the sweetest, loveliest, giggliest 95cm of gorgeousness.

Last week she got chicken pox.

She also discovered how to tantrum.

I've had a few tantrums from her before which were easily dealt with but she has cranked it up to a whole new level...to the point that I'm ready to duct-tape her to the pantry wall (it's under the stairs and therefore soundproof).

At first I put it down to her being poorly...high temperature, covered in spots, missing nursery...enough to make anybody cranky. But then the spots went, the temperature returned to normal and my little girl had been replaced with a she-devil.

Last Thursday from the minute she woke up (6am) to the minute she went back to bed (6:30pm) she screamed, cried, shouted, stamped, hit, bit, kicked, threw things (including herself and her dinner) from various spots around the house. I put her to bed and literally wept for an hour out of sheer exhaustion.

Friday she woke up and said "mummy I was naughty" which gives me some indication she knew full well what she was doing the entire time she was trying to drive me insane. We had a nice morning, had lunch, she fell asleep for her nap but it was the she-devil that woke up from it and we had another afternoon of screaming, crying, shouting, stamping, etc etc.

Things like asking her if she wants to wash her hands...she says yes but then when the tap is turned on she wont put her hands underneath so I turn the tap off and she screams she wants to wash her hands...turn the tap back on and she screams she doesn't want to...turn it off again and she screams and cries that she wants to wash her hands....but she does it with EVERYTHING....I dont/want to eat this....I dont/want to wear this....I dont/want to play with this....I always ask her what she wants so she has a choice about things but she's so contrary that she frustrates herself (then me) which is a recipe for disaster.

Saturday/Sunday/Monday she was angelic so tantrums were put down as I said to her being ill at the start of the week and maybe just being bored and frustrated from it all.

Yesterday she went back to nursery and had a lovely day by all accounts. She went to bed about 7:45pm and woke up crying about 9:30 so I tucked her back in, gave her a kiss telling her everything was alright and she went back to sleep.

She-devil woke up at 12:30am and literally screamed, cried, shouted, stamped, kicked, bit, hit all the way through til 4am when she finally wore herself out and fell soundly asleep. I left her to her own devices to scream it out so I wasn't giving her attention about 1am so it took her THREE HOURS to de-tantrum herself...bet my neighbours love me...

Had a mini-tantrum this morning when she wanted to draw but we had to leave the house for nursery but once we were there she was sweetness and light like butter wouldn't melt.

What am I doing wrong?! Has anybody else gone through this? I know that tantrums are common in toddlers but to this degree?! I am being powered on redbull and coffee today at work as I literally had 2hrs sleep last night and I need to know if there is anything I can do to nip this behaviour in the bud before I tie her to a stake in the garden to scare the birds away from the veggie patch...

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Mondaybaby · 28/08/2013 16:25

Watching this thread with interest. I got some very helpful replies to a tantrum thread I started on behavior and development a couple of weeks ago. Still after more inspiration how to cope.

brisbabe · 28/08/2013 16:30

I've just read through your thread Mondaybaby and I'm wondering if we're not living the same life a few hundred miles apart?! I'm also a single mum...me and daddy split up 6 months ago but have, in the last 2 weeks, started to slowly reconcile but at home it is just me and DD. I try to calm her down mid-tantrum and it makes it worse....like last night when I heard her crying I went into her room thinking she was having a bad dream and it was literally as soon as I opened the door she cranked up the tantrum meter...I got to the side of the bed and she morphed into a banshee...honestly don't know what to do for the best!

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Mondaybaby · 28/08/2013 21:40

Hi Brisbabe, yes there are a lot off similarities aren't there. But my daughter doesn't tantrum in the night. Bedtime is often tough but once asleep she is ok even when she wakes in the middle of the night to come into my bed. My thoughts on reading your op is that tantrumming is new to your dd and she is practicing her new skill but doesn't really know how to stop as it all gets a bit out of control. Just a thought. one thing that really hit home from my thread was that tiredness was a big trigger so I've been really working on that. Do you think the split from her father could be unsettling her? Gosh, it's so hard when they go through phases like this. So a hug from me. How's it been tonight?

brisbabe · 29/08/2013 10:42

She slept through with no issues, which she usually does to be fair...the tantrum she threw on Tuesday night was the 1st time she'd got up in the night since being a baby which is what threw me cos I thought oh no we're not going backwards are we?!

She's handled the breakup of relationship a lot better than I did! We still kept the same routine going so she wasnt unsettled too much so daddy would still come over after work & bath her & put her to bed, he'd just leave when she was asleep so she wad none the wiser...only major difference was spending weekends with just him instead of here with the both of us but she took it all in her stride & I think both of them have actually got a lot out of the exclusive daddy-daughter time together.

Tiredness can be a factor...I've noticed her getting moodier the tireder she is...but we're midstrop at the moment cos she doesnt want her nappy changing! Battle of wills :-s

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