My DD is a normal just-turned 4yo. Does have her moments as is expected but recently she has become very aggressive, hitting, biting, pulling hair, screaming, crying, and so the list goes on. Usually over nothing.
It is only with her 5yo girl cousin she does this. Play with other kids is fine in general. Up until now DD has been the recipient of cousins bad behaviour, same kind of stuff, with DD not really responding for like. However now DD is the first to attack and it will be within a few minutes of seeing each other. The cousin who is bigger will be more aggressive in retaliation and so they cant be left to play alone for fear of them killing each other.
(Although yesterday I let them go and told them to go ahead and finish this arguing and left them to it. This was met with huh...your not going to stop us!? and so they stopped...for a moment then started at each other again)
DD's behaviour at home has also worsened and I am now at a loss of what to do. I have tried all the usual disciplinary responses but nOTHING seems to work....any ideas mums?