14 yo not working even remotely to his abilities. Would you...

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Leave him to it, let him fail and learn from his own mistakes?

Take away that bloody iPod touch unless all revision and homework is done?

Background: I have nagged and nagged, I admit it. I have spoken to him calmly. I have actually cried, I've been so upset.

Nothing works. He leaves his school work to last minute, doesn't revise for tests. Not bothered when he doesn't do well. Often blames me or his dad for not helping him. However, he doesn't even try to do a small bit of the work himself, and his dad won't help unless he shows willing to make a modicum of effort.

I have to say I like the idea of changing the wifi password & requiring him to earn access by doing his homework. The adults in the house earn money to provide wifi, so he has to earn access. Access is not a human right! Once he's an adult he'll have to earn enough to buy it himself & if he doesn't he won't get it then either.
This may work if its just a bit of laziness, procrastination etc but if there's more at its root eg he's struggling with the work it'll backfire.

You might get more ideas in the teens forum

How is it going op?

Good luck OP.
I can't conceive of any of these suggestions working with me, or my two.

I would have simply lied and not written half my homework in my planner.

DD1's planner is illegible and DD2 is unlive with able without her lap top.

Fortunately my two do a reasons me amout of homework as school makes life difficult if they don't and they both like reasonable grades. DD1 wants to go to uni to do science and DD2 wants to teach.

Maybe, they'll change their minds several times, but they have something to aim at.

I knew I wanted to go to university from being very small, according to my DM. I was awful at doing any HW, but pretty good at last minute revision (not something the DDs school will tolerate).

Which of course leads to the question OP.
Does your DS get in trouble with school for not doing his homework. Does he get detention and does he care.

DH and the DDs are mystified that I managed to avoid great stacks of work, because only certain teachers could be bothered. There was no whole school discipline system as they have.

You need a word with his tutor/head of year/progress leader (finding the right person can be fun), you need to present a united, no nonsense front!

I don't know the Scottish system, but here Ofsted are really hot on DCs making the right amount of progress. Pupils who look like missing their expected grades get lent on.

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