Ever get the feeling you must be talking in Japanese?

[poppiesinaline]

I must tell DS1 (9 yrs) 7 or 8 times to do something before he actually does it but which time I am normally screaming like a banshee in his face. I make sure that when I first ask, I am clear, getting eye contact and he replies to me and still I have to ask again and again and again. He hasnt always been like this. Just started about 4 months or so ago.

Just wondered if it was a 'phase' thing or something.

definitley a phase, once asked hv to check hearing of ds because he kept ignoring me, try asking in a quiet voice if he wants a treat when he is not listening to you, works every time

at glazing over!

Thing is, I know he has heard me because I make him answer me.

He goes "Ok mummy" or "yes" and then carries on what he is doing so I ask again (nicely) and he replies "yes, ok" and I wait and then ask again (not quite so patiently or kindly) - well you can see the picture building cant you?

It is so annoying

Or I will ask him NOT to do something. Eg, playing roughly with DD. I called him in from the garden this afternoon and said "Please will you stop bouncing on DD because you will hurt her. If you do it again you will have time out" He looked at me and said "Ok" then prompty went outside and bounced on her . Needless to say - time out followed but it is so frustrating. Sorry, rambling now....

my ds2 is 12 and is exactly the same, i have to tell him things about 4 times

how long does this phase last for? I cant last another 3 years

sorry but ds1 is 18 and still like it now

OH is 23 and still says 'ok' when you ask him to do something he doesn't want - and then doesn't do it!

your lucky he speaks mine justs grunts

Not filling me with hope ladies

oh well, >> At least Im not suffering alone.

My ds1 did this for a while. Rather than just getting a reply have you tried getting him to repeat what you want him to do in his own words? Worked for me.

definitely a phase. dds (6 and 4) are going through it. I have been reliably informed that it lasts about 14 years.

actually, i was thinking of learning japanese, I thought it might help

konichiwa