just give him water and he will stop waking up.

[NachoAddict]

Well thanks but I have tried that and it doesn't work

Ds 13 months doesn't sleep at night. He wakes up to bf every hour at worst or two - three hours at best. .

We tried dp settling him and it worked in a way, he was just waking up once or twice a night but instead of taking 5 mins to settle with a quick feed he would take around half an hour.

So I thought one or two quick feeds, I can live with that. Oh no, as soon as I started giving milk again he wants to spend Ll night with my nipple in his mouth.

Dp has stopped helping so its all on me and he knows I have milk. He gets hysterical if I don't give in and there is work on the morning.

So what is the secret? Help please!

Thanks for your story XmarkstheSpot reassuring to know it is possible!

I think what I have come to realise over this thread is that it doesn't matter how I do it, he's not going to like it. He is going to cry a bit and fuss and tantrum. That doesn't mean it is doing him any harm or emotionally scarring him for life.

I just have to make sure I wake up properly when he does so that i don't just give in whilst half asleep. I have to be firm and stick to my guns and I have to remind myself that crying a bit won't kill him. I will be there with cuddles and a drink in a bottle/cup.

I BF my Ds for 2.5 years. I'm about to have twins and here is what I'll do differently in the latter stages:
I'll make sure that they have an early evening feed (at 5ish and a long one but avoid early sleep) and another long one before sleep. i will wake for a dream feed possibly. if they do wake in the night (and i will be co sleeping) i will take their arms and fold them up away from me and stroke them on the back whilst saying "nanna's (boobs) are finished" in a hushed tone. they will wimper and cry but i will persist and i will hug them. This is my plan. It's what I did with my son when I wanted to stop feeding altogether. The difference is that I will be giving more feeds during the day and eve waking hours instead of trying desperately to have some time to myself, hopefully leaving them more satisfied and for longer. The night feeds with my son were so frequent and were habit. When I really put my foot down he'd accepted it within two nights. I hope that helps and good luck!

Nacho, DS didn't seem to find it confusing, tho he was a bit older - closer to 2. But then it's not inconsistent with what we did in the daytime, if we were in the middle of something else I would say no to feeding. Also, DS had a very vague idea of when it was morning, so if morning for milk purposes changed from 2am to 4am he didn't really notice or care.

But sounds like you're making great progress with Jay Gordon, yay!

They are smarter than I give him credit for I think.

He was good again last night. It's no milk between 11 and 6 tonight so gonna be a toughie. I hope he accepts it soon.

It's great to see all the people who have come through it.

Last night was amazing! Not getting my hopes up incase its fluke but still I am so pleased.

I fed him at eleven when I went to bed. Gave him a huge cuddle and said milkies all gone now. Night night love you.

He woke up at 12.09 drank his whole bottle, put his dummy in and went to sleep, he didn't even ask for me.

I filled the bottle up and he woke again at some point, got the bottle had a drink and got his dummy and went back to sleep again all on his own.

Third time be woke up he did have a little cry, I offered the bottle he had a small sip, took the dummy and went back to sleep.

6.09 he woke again came into bed with us, had a food feed and went back to sleep until half 7!!