Toddler upset by changes in life

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We have one DS who is 2 and I am currently pregnant. We are also due to move house in a couple of months and these changes seem to be stressing out DS.

We've tried to tell him the basic info about what is happening, new baby, becoming a big brother etc as well as him having seen new house and us talking about bigger garden, big boy bedroom, being near grandma etc.. I'm beginning to feel we've got it all wrong as he was last night crying in bed and said it was because of 'baby'. We cuddle a lot, talk if he wants and spend time doing things he enjoys, any advice on how to reassure him further please and tips for managing the move and baby. We are planning a present from the baby and want to prioritise making his new room nice for him but any tips and advice gratefully received. Thanks

Oh dear lots to take in, how about if favourite toy gets involved, show him where it will be, what would it like, maybe this or that so DS can reassure/educate/take command? Makes him feel a bit more in control.

For now I'd be tempted to ease back on looking too far ahead, live for now, I don't know how far ahead little kids can really project, maybe he is worried it's all happening at once. I'm sure you have fully explained but just like with adults, anything overwhelming or major can assume double the worry when tired or overwrought, especially near bedtime.

You sound completely dedicated to getting it right and making him feel like he's taking part rather than be swept along so I'm sure it'll all be all right.

Just thought of something, wonder if there's a picturebook you could get covering the theme of moving? Something you and he or another adult can look at in a relaxed setting.

That's a good idea. We have a book about new babies which he usually likes but at bedtime found it upsetting. You are definitely right about things seeming worse when tired, I just have to remember that. Thanks for your advice.