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I've put her to bed and shut the door - she's screaming the place down

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AngelaD · 13/06/2006 20:27

but i'm so tired I can't keep my eyes open. I've breast fed the child for 2.3 years every night she wakes at least obnce for a feed and toniht with hubs away I've lost it, I can't do this any more.
My dinners burnt, the other 2 children don't understand why I'm not picking her up and she's in a right state but if I go in that bedroom I won't be responsible for my actions.

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trinityrhino · 13/06/2006 20:28

hugs darling
wish I could be more help

breathe
count to 10
ypour not hurting her by leving her till you calm down

trinityrhino · 13/06/2006 20:29

are you breathing????

do you have wine???

how old are the other kids>> could one help you?

trinityrhino · 13/06/2006 20:30

are you ok???????

Feistybird · 13/06/2006 20:30

yes, look we're all here with you , don't panic Mr Mannerin, we all know they drive us up the bloody wall sometimes.

It will pass.

motherbeing · 13/06/2006 20:30

sounds really tough. hang in there angela. just give yourself some time out before going back. good luck

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AngelaD · 13/06/2006 20:31

have wine, other two are only three and five they want to go to sleep, so does she but the little bugger won't she's screaming and screaming. Will she fall asleep eventually, i cannot go to her, i hate right now.

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trinityrhino · 13/06/2006 20:32

I know how angry kids can make you when your exhausted

xxx

trinityrhino · 13/06/2006 20:33

oh darling, if you lived near me I'd come and help

i'm in SW scotland BTW

Feistybird · 13/06/2006 20:33

Yep, she'll scream (prob for longer than you think) and then she will zonk.

trinityrhino · 13/06/2006 20:34

at that age she probably will go to sleep eventually

keep breathing

Jasnem · 13/06/2006 20:34

I hope for your sake she gives up and drops off. Now you've gone this far you may as well follow through, then your nights will get better.
Lots of calming thoughts going your way...

morningpaper · 13/06/2006 20:35

yes keep breathing

either she'll stop or you'll calm down

probably the first :)

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AngelaD · 13/06/2006 20:38

she's come down stairs climbed on my lap and is feeding again, i haven't the heart to stop her now cos she's in such a state but this has to stop, I just hate it so much.

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FrannyandZooey · 13/06/2006 20:38

Could one of your other kids go in to her? I understand that feeling of rage, I really do. Your other children might be able to help you out though, do you think?

I know you are tired and fed up but you don't really want to punish her, do you, you just need to have a break so you can go in and be nice Mummy again in a bit.

FrannyandZooey · 13/06/2006 20:40

Ah cross posts

I really feel for you Angela, it is very hard sometimes. It's not her fault though, it is one of those things - very hard :(

Feistybird · 13/06/2006 20:40

Can you start bribing oops, I mean rewarding her if she doesn't feed - you know the kind of thing, everytime she wants a feed, put some pasta in a small jar and tell her when the jar's full she gets a present (or am I asking too much of a 2.3 yo?)

trinityrhino · 13/06/2006 20:42

oh angela, you pooor thing, do you think she'll go to sleep now?

hugs to you
xxx

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AngelaD · 13/06/2006 20:43

she's now asleep

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Feistybird · 13/06/2006 20:45

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AngelaD · 13/06/2006 20:45

5 mins of breast feeding and i can't even stand thatanymore, although the problem is you never know how long it's going to take i could have been there for hours.

thanks for holding my hand, i'm going to go to bed with her now.
thank you again.

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FillyjonktheFluffy · 13/06/2006 20:45

oh god, angela, I know, my dd is 11 months but she's the same, she can feed and feed and feed, 30 minutes between feeds in the evenings,

its exhausting, fecking exhausting.

Being awake all night is exhausting and bf is exhausting. And thinking about it upside down and sideways and should I do this or that...thats exhausting too.

Just keep posting. This will pass, somehow, honestly.

trinityrhino · 13/06/2006 20:45

I can hear your sigh of relief from here

hope you remembered to breathe

take care

bubblerock · 13/06/2006 20:46

My little sod has, twice, in the last two weeks made himself sick through screaming because I have been trying to get him to stay in his own bed

kitbit · 14/06/2006 06:57

Bet you have tried everything already but in case not, Elizabeth Pantley has a book called the No Cry Sleep Solution, and I believe there is a bit in there about how to stop breastfeeding kindly and without upset? At least I think it's in that one, she has several books we are just starting to read it to help us find a way to gently wean ds away from cosleeping.

Hope you got a good nights rest, don't feel bad, everyone's allowed an "off" day occasionally and it sounds like you were very overdue to have yours!!! hugs

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