DS has become more and more disrespectful and moody and whiny and whingey basically when anything he wants to do or be involved in doesn't go his way. He can withdraw and be monosyllabic with other adults and just arsey with us (me and DH)
he is an only child so gets plenty of attention from us, sees plenty of friends, he has had lots of activities over the holidays and we have been away.
Holiday was just a series of flash points where we ended up having a number of 'this is it' moments "we won't take any more of this" and he was perfect again for a few days until the next 'big' thing.
Anyhow roll on another few weeks and today very calmly after another series of arsey, disrespectful talking over me type conversations I DREW A LINE. I said it was about time he realised what it was like to have things taken away and for it to feel rubbish - as thats how his dad and I feel when he behaves this way.
I have banned all screen time (predominantly ipod and TV), not allowed him to wear new trainers and tracksuit bought for school ( which he had on) and said that he can earn it all back by proven behaviour change.
BUT, and here's the big but - I don't know how I can make this work....
What does he earn back and how . Straight after I told him this he stomped off huffing and puffing then asked what jobs I need doing, did them and was super helpful - then went to put new trainers and tracksuit bottoms on . I said no , he said he had earned them back....
I need some ideas of how to measure the good behaviour and ensure it stays.
Any ideas?????????