This is horrid. Please bear with me, it might go on a bit. A few months ago, I found out that my three year old boy has been sexually abused by the adopted 8 year old daughter of a close friend. I have stopped contact with this child, and saw my GP who said that there should be no future issues arising from this, as he is so young, and as long as it does not happen again. At the time I was OK with this. As OK as possible under the circumstances anyway. I explained to DS that no-one is allowed to touch him there and that if anyone tries he can shout "NO" as loud as he can. He told me that the game that was being played is called Mummies and Babies, and I said that mummies aren't supposed to play with their babies willies. But my childminder, who he goes to on one day a week, and who is aware of the situation, has reported that my son has for the past 4 or 5 weeks been talking "inappropriately" and saying things like "shall we play with our willies" and "have you got a big willy" and has been even talking to her husband in this way. They try to distract him from this line of talk but he doesn't want to be distracted. He doesn't do this at home, or at the playgroup he goes to in the mornings. He seems happy and cheerful in every other respect, although wilful in a normal 3 year old kind of way. So I need to undo these knots. My instinct is not to go through the health visitor as I don't want him to be "the child who..." but he will start school nursery in September and if he displays this behaviour there I don't know what will happen. I have two other children 8 & 7, so I'm not a complete beginner, but I'm conpletely at sea with this problem. Any ideas?