Feel a bit shit!!!!

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it was one of them days yesterday - long story very short, we were in the car early evening, and DD 2.6 was in the back, whinging/crying and just pointing to random stuff going "that's mine" "that's mine" ina really horrible whingey voice constantly...honestly it was like a broken record.

After 20 minutes or so of me trying to figure out exactly what it was she wanted, and massive screaming fit when i got it wrong - we seemed to calm down, until 5 minutes later she started again which resulted in me saying "ENOUGH of the whinging, either tell me what you want nicely or you can sit there quietly but i have it with it whining". i didn't shout, but i didn't exactly use my lovely mummy voice either..

anyway her face when she looked at me - she did stop and was wonderful for the rest of the journey - i however feel like utter shit as i keep seeing her little face when i "shouted" at her

our little ones sure know how to press our buttons and make us doubt ourselves lol x

I'm on day 4 of non stop whining and tantrums over various nothing's, so am feeling your pain.

I never wanted to be a shouty mum but more and more I find myself raising my voice at my very demanding nearly 3yo ds.

I've heard they grow out of it but then my 6m dd will no doubt be entering that stage oh joy!

I'm going back to work soon, cannot chuffing wait!

Please tell me this isn't the first time you've not used a lovely mummy voice in 2.6yrs of parenting?!?

Ds3 is 2.6 and just discovering that I can and will use my cross voice with him just like I do for his big brothers when they've been up to no good. He then dissolves with a broken heart. Not good when he is due a trip to the toilet (we're in the middle of potty training) and the crying will last at least 15minutes.

Please don't beat yourself up!! Sounds like 99% of the time you are really patient....you are only human though !!
I have really properly shouted at my 3.5 yr old on a couple of occasions for which I am not proud of a. Because it doesn't actually help him or me and makes the situation worse and b. it made me feel like shite too!
However, a firm voice when you have really had it up to here is totally acceptable IMO! Xx

@naturalbaby - i've used a firm voice, but never really raised it like i did yesterday....it was just her little face when she looked at me, killed me mun!!

still done the trick, kept her quiet and stopped the whinging lol

@ladypop - that's how i felt, it was clear she wanted something and i don't think shouting helped but i really had had enough by this point!!

so nice to know i'm not on my own and we're not all "perfect" stepford mothers xx

I have just started a thread as I just shouted at my dd 2.7 after dragging her home during rain kicking and screaming. I know later she will tell dp I shouted at her and look all angelic