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Everytime I put down my 8 week old baby he starts to cry

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HeatherSprouse · 03/08/2013 19:19

My youngest child is Callum he is 8 weeks old starting 20mins ago I put in down for 1 min with his sisters Rebecca, Lilly and Ruth while I went to get Lilly and him some Milk then he started to scream REALLY REALLY REALLY loud and it was louder than ever.

Ever scince I tried to put him down to bed he Screams REALLY REALLY REALLY loud does any one have any Idea why he might be screaming if you do please comment x

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 03/08/2013 21:51

He wants to be winded or fed I suppose. Or just held. Also...you don't need to put all your children's names on here. It's not usual....unless you're discussing your unborn child and what to call her. ALso what do you mean you put him down with his sisters? Has he got his own cot or moses basket?

FannyFifer · 03/08/2013 21:53

Do you have quads?

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 03/08/2013 21:55

Also...surely if you have three older children it's not a surprise when an 8 week old baby screams? Is he hot?

CreatureRetorts · 03/08/2013 21:59

He's 8 weeks old. He wants to be held. This is normal an something that we all forget with subsequent children! I certainly did.

Wait for him to be asleep for 20 mins then try putting him down.

ThinkAboutItTomorrow · 03/08/2013 21:59

Just a cuddle. And a few months to grow out of needing one?
Sorry, my first is/was like this

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 03/08/2013 22:01

You've had about 6 threads today OP....all about your children's misbehaving. You don't sound old enough to be parent to 4.

puppiesandkittens09 · 03/08/2013 22:15

i've been through this with my daughter too, i couldn't put her down AT ALL unless she went to bed at night. Breastfeeding every 3 hours in the night for a full year too. In the day she'd only fall asleep while breastfeeding and i couldn't put her down, otherwise she'd wake up.

Has he got the silence he needs? I know my daughter gets really moody if she doesn't have enough silence in the day (tv too loud, children playing loudly around her).
Is he pooping well? Did you look for clues like grabbing his ears or head (possible infections?) I know that doctors don't recommend this until the baby is weaned, but if it's too hot outside, did you try giving him some cooled boiled water?
Did you try the cry it out method? I know it feels horrible, but it works (unless your son has a good reason to cry)
try putting his favourite toy with him in his cot/moses basket to bed.
try rocking him to sleep and waiting 20-30 mins before you put him down (as someone above suggested)
have you tried dummies? nasty habit but i think it can be controlled if you keep it just for bed times

CreatureRetorts · 03/08/2013 22:21

Are you serious puppies? Did you try the cry it out method? I know it feels horrible, but it works

For an 8 week old baby? Words almost but I had to say something fail me

puppiesandkittens09 · 03/08/2013 23:04

I was trying to be helpful, I didn't tell you to follow my words exactly. I didn't jump to judge you. you could at least appreciate the time people waste to try and help you.
About the cry it out method, certain books recommend it at any age, but I tried it with my daughter at around 5 months.

Cravingdairy · 03/08/2013 23:11

puppies Is it you who slaps their 13 month old baby? Apologies if I have the wrong poster.

I really doubt any reputable expert would recommend CIO for an 8 week old.

Creature isn't the OP.

puppiesandkittens09 · 03/08/2013 23:29

yes, it is me. you did get that idea all wrong. As I already said, I only do it if it's absolutely necessary and it NEVER hurt my daughter. ever.

CreatureRetorts · 04/08/2013 06:56

@ puppies

Yes some books from the dark ages advocate CIO for 8 week old babies, but none from today's day and age do.

And slapping a 13 month old? But it's ok because it doesn't hurt her

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HeatherSprouse · 05/08/2013 12:42

thanks for the suggestions xx

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EhricLovesTeamQhuay · 05/08/2013 13:03

OP it's not very sensible to put all your children's names in your post.
8 week old babies like to be held. If he wants anything it's likely to be milk, cuddle, winding or nappy change. How have you had 4 kids without knowing that?

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HeatherSprouse · 05/08/2013 13:14

I tried that it didn't work and stop being negative

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EhricLovesTeamQhuay · 05/08/2013 13:24

Then just cuddle him??!?

CharlotteCollins · 05/08/2013 13:37

Is this new behaviour or has he always done it?

Does he have any reason to be afraid with his siblings? My dc4 didn't like to be left alone with dc3... and with good reason as he sometimes hurt her, despite my attempts to keep them apart.

Best thing for babies under a year is for them to be given as much love, comfort and reassurance as you have strength to give.

If you need a break, put him down in a safe place (maybe away from other dcs if they are young) and give yourself a breather.

If you are worried that something is physically wrong, see a GP.

If you are overwhelmed by having 4 dcs (and who could blame you - the first 12 months were the worst of my life), lean on any support that's offered to you. Maybe try MN Local?

Munchkinmommy · 05/08/2013 21:47

If its any help my daughter did this for a few weeks at about the same age. I got myself all worked up worrying if I should hold her all the time and if I was spoiling her. At this age they just want cuddles. My HV told me to just cuddle her, that she won't 'learn bad sleeping habits' so young. Making her feel safe and secure now will help with sleeping later and it's true. It only lasted a few weeks and then she was fine. It was just a phase. Bare with your little one. It won't last for ever. :-)

curlew · 05/08/2013 21:53

Please tell me people don't do CIO at 8 weeks. Please!!!!!

TheBakeryQueen · 05/08/2013 22:49

I don't think any modern books recommend crying it out at 8 weeks! If they do PUPPIES name it please.

If you don't know why your 8 week old is crying then try feeding, winding, nappy, cuddling.

Needs & wants amount to the same at this age. So if they just want to be held then go with it. Maybe get a sling so you can get on with your day.

It goes so quick anyway. Just enjoy the cuddles.

TheBakeryQueen · 05/08/2013 22:53

And try white noise, such as the vacuum cleaner or you can buy a CD off eBay and play it (or iPhone app).

Also, some babies like a vibrating bouncy chair or being swaddled.

Or all 3!

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