Is this an appropriate punnishment

[HeatherSprouse]

All for of my kids are screaming and hitting each other Ruth is the oldest she started It so Grounding her for a month and no tv for 1 week or xbox and Lilly is 7 so can I ground her for 3 weeks no sweets for 2 days (as with ruth) and send her to her room for hitting back. and Lilly is 2 she slapped her baby brother(2 months old) with the tv remote so can she have no sweets for the rest of the day and not alloud to the park with Ruth today and to go to bed now? please help I don't know what to do

Tomorrows a new day, have a and early night!

thanks for the support some people haven't shown me xx

You don't need to end your posts here with kisses, btw.

There is a lot of good advice here, if you can avoid getting hostile and defensive. We all know that nobody's perfect.

It is too much responsibility for a nine year old to look after a two year old, at home or anywhere else.

Heather you have been so brave speaking your heart out here today. I know some people can come accross as harsh, but they are all genuine. I know it's hard to learn to parent these days, when we were younger many things were accepted as normal, I myself at age 9 had to look after my 2 year old sister, it was a lot of responsibility, too much for a 9 year old.

Take the useful advice and try to work it in. To have calm, happy children takes a lot of hard work, especially with the age ranges you are managing on your own. Hats off to you for seeking advice when you know you are struggling on your own.

I am really sad to hear you have done this so long on your own, I bet before that it wasn't exactly a party either, but you are doing it, so well done, and keep on trying. We are all learning, and there is tons of advice out there, good advice.

Really hope you have found some good ideas here today, structure really is the key, it's a lot of hard work, but you find things that work, and then you start rotating activities that work, and it starts feeling easier.

Well done for putting your neck on the line, I really hope you have ended the day feeling more hopeful than you started.

Beach sounds like fun! Hope weather is ok.

BOF I know but they would not stop bugging me at 7am and anyway they didn't even go

JoAlone thanks xx

CreatureRetorts hopefully yeah the kids love the beach so for a treat xx

You've been supported, but you've also been told that the thing you were planning to do was stupid and dangerous, because it was.

I agree with all the advice given.

Plus stop calling people haters, you're not twelve. Nobody hates you. Disagreeing with your choices isn't hate.

I do, however, completely understand that you had a horrible day yesterday.

For the rest of the week, no sweets. Set meal times at the same time every day. Set bedtimes, but not very early or they'll drive you nuts getting up and down.

And most important of all ... Have a plan. I have two kids and two step kids aged between seven and ten. You must have a plan or they'll rip each other to pieces out of boredom. Take them out every day if you can... Even a trip to the park near your house is an outing! Are you down south? Your blackberries might be ripening, get the children picking. The beach is a really good idea. Borrow a dog and take it for a walk through a bit park.

And the dad of your baby is a twat.

colditz I know I went a bit to far yesterday I was tiard but they behaved llot better today after going to the beach and then Ice-cream and yes there dad is a twat i agree with you there

Their dad is indeed a twat. Good to hear things are settling down, best of luck with the planning for the rest of the holidays.

Keep asking for advice, there are a lot of experienced people on here. That is one of the worst things about being a parent, once you have all the experience for the job, you no longer need it.