21 month old sleep problems need help please !!!

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Ok so my 21 month old has been sleeping badly since she turned 12 months used to be a great sleeper up until then !used to go into the cot awake and fall asleep by herself in her own room . Then all of a sudden she would cry hysterical if i left the room there was no change in routine or anything she has a dummy and comforter. She is also an only child. So i had to start sitting on the floor beside her cot until she was asleep. If she woke during the night i would have to do the same thing and she started waking up to 6 times a night where previously she slept through. At 18 months I got her a toddler bed as she started climbing from the cot. She was still sleeping the same the change of bed didn't make her any worse or better. Recently for two weeks straight she let me leave and not cry but the last 2 nights we are back to square one with me now standing at the doorway until she's asleep. I am at my wits end any advice will be greatly appreciated have tried to let her cry it out and put her back in to bed everytime she gets out but nothing works !!

I have this problem with DD2. Although she is 23 months now, and has to be physically touching me in order to go to sleep.

From experience with DD1, they do have changes in their behaviour patterns, and then for no apparent reason, they just change back again! I hope your DD settles back into her old pattern again soon.

Sorry, not much help but maybe someone will come along with an answer!

What changed at around12 months? Did you change how you fed her, change milk? (just trying to rule stuff out)

My dd is as you describe - 20 months and will not let me leave. Although she's getting better. If I get up and go, she cries. If I say "night night time to sleep", sometimes she wil self settle. We're getting there (previously she would go to sleep no problem). She's in a cot though so no escaping.

Could it be her molars coming in?

I did wean her off formula at around that time but I did it slowly and she never had a problem with it she gave the bottle up herself altogether at 17 months she didn't want it anymore and would go to bed happily without it. I donth think its her teeth as she has never been bothered about teething and this has been going on so long I feel like everytime we progress we just end up goin backwards its very frustrating

I only asked as wondered if cows milk didn't agree with her - can sometimes cause low level discomfort if slightly intolerant which usually is outgrown by 3ish. (hence why it started when she stopped formula - just a random guess though as my two don't get on with cows milk).

But to be honest, if she goes to sleep quickly with you there I'd just do that and try leaving every now and then, telling her it's night night time to sleep. She'll get better eventually.

My sister used a "magic chair". She would sit next to the bed the first night until her boy was asleep but leave the chair all night long, as the nights went on she would move the chair further away from the bed until it was at the door. She told the boy the magic chair watch him and reported back to her. It seemed to work and he was a really good sleeper. I forget how old he was when she did it but I'm sure it was around 2 xx

That sounds lik a good idea Adreams I think she's a bit young yet to quite comprehend it tho but if this behaviour continues I mite consider giving it a go in a couple of months until then im just goin to have to work with her this phase will hopefully pass again it just makes things difficult when we go out and leave her with a babysitter as she wakes up often during the night and panics if she's left with someone she is not close to which narrows it down to either my mother or my partners mother who she isn't particularly close to either but I can't just keep using my own mother she's not always available !