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4-year-old dd scared at bedtime

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dinny · 09/06/2006 13:09

says a man is going to climb up a ladder, break window and climb in her room. any suggetions/advice? is it a developmental thing? am thinking of putting her in with her little brother. feel awful as I started telling her off before realising she was genuinely scared Sad

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Norah · 09/06/2006 13:14

My dd (5.5) says stuff like this - and has done since she was about 4 I think ! I just say "Don't be silly - Daddy wouldn't let a man do that would he ?" - usually with mine it is crocodile related (?) and I say "Have you seen how long a crocodile's legs are ? There is no way a crocodile could climb our stairs !" - I act as if it is a ridiculous suggestion and it seems to work most of the time !

I think it's just a heightened awareness thing to be honest - becoming more aware of the world around them and starting to worry a bit !

Mine caught a bit of the news last night and was really concerned about that Iraqi man who was killed ! She wanted to know if soldiers killed children for being naughty !

SKYTVADICT · 09/06/2006 13:17

Both my DDs have gone through this and DD1 (10) actually slept with her bedroom window open last night! I just used to say don't be silly as I thought it was yet another delaying tactic to going to bed! and if you want to be hot and sweaty keep your window shut then. Bad mother perhaps?

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dinny · 09/06/2006 13:21

that was what I though, Skytvaddict, but she was SO hysterical - she was shouting "GO AWAY!!!"

I got dh to stand in the garden with his cricket bat and dd and I looked out of he window and I said "See, Daddy is making sure no-one climbs up any ladders" but she still was so upset. Ended up lying in bed with her till she went to sleep. Would moving room help?

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WigWamBam · 09/06/2006 13:27

When my dd was about 3.5 and frightened of scary monsters getting into her room, we told her that she had the bravest Cattie (stuffed cat who was with her constantly) in the world who looked after her and made sure that everything was OK, and at one point we put a very brave teddybear on guard outside her door. That seemed to be enough for her, and we've had no problems since - she's 5 now.

Norah · 09/06/2006 13:33

I think I read on here too that someone put a notice on the child's door saying "No Monsters Allowed" or something - and that seemed to reassure too.

My dd thinks that goblins get in trough the window so we have to shut it when she goes to bed - and then I sneak back in later and open it ! Ceiling fan has been a big hit too !

I have just got some "anti-goblin" spray from Tesco's too (just air freshener but don't tell dd) and that stops them coming in !

heavenis · 09/06/2006 13:37

Do you have a house alarm, when ds went through this,we told him that the alarm was on and monsters can't get in. There is also a dog next door and I said the dog would scare them off.
What about a night light and tell her that monsters don't like lights.

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dinny · 09/06/2006 13:51

it's so light when she goes to bed atm. am thinking of putting ds in her room by the window so he can guard it...

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southeastastra · 09/06/2006 13:52

my son the same as well (dr who grrr), time to watch Monsters Inc, i think!

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dinny · 15/06/2006 18:21

have had some awful nights trying to put dd to bed. feel so bad as got really cross with her last night Sad

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