2 yr-old son is so vile that I want to leave the house

[Brozzer]

OH MY GOD.
I don't want to put up with these horrible red-faced screaming fits any more, with the perpetual whining, aggressive demanding, constant crying. My ds has become a really unpleasant little character three quarters of the time. Is it normal to feel contempt for your own child and to long to be literally anywhere else but with them? I want my life back.

Hi Brozzer ,
I know excatly how you feel, My son was awful ( i know that is a horible thing to say ) when he was that age , I thought the fits and showing off would never end, and liked you wished to be anywhere else but at home with him.
he is now 3.7 years and so much better we have loads of fun and i now hate going to work but his bad ways even put us of having another one until now !

Hang on in there ,

x x x x

could he be poorly?...too hot

have you got it in you to try a random bath?...have been doing this with ds (2.5) recently..aand it gives me 3/4 hr of peace.

hang in there xx

just ignore him and walk out of the room. its an attention thing so withdraw your attention. dont speak or shout - just walk into another room and say " mummy is not going to speak to you when you are behaving so poorly"

and keep walking away.

and yes - sometimes i hated mine

Thanks Pinkranger - am finding it very hard to imagine things will ever be different. I've started to dread the days I'm at home with him because each day lasts an eternity. I can't say this to my dp, family or friends cos it sounds so terrible. I can't remember the last time I was happy to spend a day with him. I love my part-time job and going somewhere where I can do something useful and creative with lovely people rather than be bullied and screamed out by a small boy.
Beansontoast - I used to do random baths to entertain him but I've given up trying to do anything this week. All he wants to do is watch f*ing Pingu and Fireman Sam DVDs and then scream 'OUT!'when he wants to go outside. I'm so tired and bored. Am evidently the worst mother in the world cos I can't be arsed any more.

Def not the worst mother !! Some days i cant be arsed, even now

Sometimes ride it out with the TV , they say its bad for them...... but even now some days i let mine get on with it, he would watch power rangers until it came out of his ears!!!!!

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There are some fab posts about vile days with a two year old on this thread - look ini particular for frogs' account of a bad day with DD2...

With 2.1 I ask him "are you sad ?"
A useful number of times, he clams down enough to say "yes". Actually the process I follow is to get him to say "yes" as much as possible.
No it's not reliable, but worth a try I think.

Works suprisingly well for me. The idea is that a good % of the noise is generated by frustration. He knows that the right noise will get what he wants but you are too stupid to realise that "greem eeyoomm buoo watty honkey"
is
"please play the Shrek 2 DVD again"

How does he behave when he's out? I would go crazy if I stayed at home every day and go out at least once in the morning and once in the afternoon. Ds behaves much better when he's out of the house, probably because he's getting my attention more, as I talk about what we are going to buy at the shop, or how many ducks he think will be at the park.

I tell ds that I won't talk to Willie Wingebucket, but when Bob comes back into the room to let me know.

Oh, yes and providing a word for him to describe his feelings like DC suggests is a good one.

I realised how frightening and frustrating not knowing a word was when Ds was absolutely terrified when he had an allergic reaction in the night - I went in and said "oh, you've been sick" (which was an understatement the room was covered in sick) and he said "sick, oh okay" and was instantly comforted that I knew what it was and had a word for it.