DD (3.3) keeps wetting herself - driving us crazy

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Hi - my DD was potty trained on the second attempt back at xmas, was fine for a while but has never been very reliable - we have had to remind her almost constantly to go. She does ask on occasion and is able to hold it when in the car etc until we can stop. BUT just recently she has been wetting herself with no warning about 4 times a day. I am inclined to think it could be the warm weather, drinking more, etc, but I just don't know.

We have had a few changes around here recently - DH lost his job and is at home with her now but she still goes to my mums a few days a week (used to be there 5 days) and she also has problems with constipation, which we just cant seem to get on top of.

I am just so frustrated, it is 4 sets of wet clothes everyday at the moment, she goes to preschool in September and it would be nice for it to be sorted before then.

Has anyone got any advice, or are your DC similar - should we be worried that she still isn't getting it?

I would suggest that you stop reminding her to go
let her figure it out for herself
she will ahve accidents but at the moment she is not recognising the signs that she needs to go, she is relying on you to do it for her
I work in a nursery and have potty trained literally dozens of children
I wouldn't worry too much at this stage, there is still plenty of time for her to crack it

The fact that she has never been very reliable, may mean that she is still not ready. some children don't train until quite late.

Thanks. We have tried not reminding her, with varied success. She does know the signs, will say, I need a wee, and knows that she should try to hold it - say in the car - but the last few weeks it has just been random. She also will wee when angry/unhappy - for example if she has done something like hit me, I take her to her room to cool off and when I go to get her - a minute later - she has weed on the bed - almost on purpose.

Some people have recommended trying her without pull ups or nappies at night - just a bed pad as she might be confused, has anyone tried this?

I am just worried about september. I am a teacher so have all summer to try to crack it I suppose. Do you think the constipation would be contributing - she only goes twice a week sometimes.

I would hold back from taking away her nighttime nappies. Being dry at night is a totally different kettle of fish- it is down to muscle development and hormone production, both of which the child has no control over
I agree that the constipation may be having an affect on her bladder control
is she on any sort of medicine for the constipation?

We tried movicol, she just soiled constantly with no control over it. It didn't make things much better, but softer at least. She does one gigantic poo every few days. I am keeping a food diary for the next two weeks, then I am going to take her back to the docs, thinking if I can get my head round what might be causing that we can see about the wee then. She just wet herself again now, and also said she needs a poo, but didn't. So think she might be confused.
I think you're right about the night, besides can't cope with any more cleaning up I don't think!

Hey there, how about making it fun again as you sound a little bit annoyed / angry and she may be picking up on it? I honestly mean that in the best interests of your little one, not having a dig, we all get a bit ranty on here!! Maybe a new cheap potty, new knickers? Something as a reward? Stickers, chocolate? Good luck

Yep, maybe. It is frustrating as we can't go anywhere without poo/wee issues, and about 5 pairs of pants! I think more and more it must be something to do with the constipation, she seems to have very weak control, she wets a little bit very often and then needs a wee straight after. Might try a sticker chart for dry knickers or something.