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1yo keeps putting her hand down my top

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Sleepyfergus · 18/07/2013 07:54

Dd2 has a habit of putting her hand down my top, right in under the bra and down to the nipple. Sometimes she can nip me which is quite sore.

She usually does this when cuddled in and is sucking her thumb on the other hand. So obv a comfort thing.

She's only started doing it in the last few months. She was ebf until 6 months then I gradually dropped feeds until she was a week shy of turning one. By then it was just a bedtime feed.

I've tried gently removing her hand, or placing a small cuddly toy in the neckline of my top hoping she might adopt it but nothing. I presume she'll grow out of this - anyone experienced this, or have any tips/tricks? Tbh, it doesn't overly bother me except when she nips as that can be bloody sore. She will do this to most women she feels comfy with, ie. my mum, my MIL, nursery staff. I must admit I do feel a bit swears when she does it to my mum/MIL as its not just a hand on the chest, she reaches right down to the nipple. She can't do that to the nursery staff because of the way their uniform poppers up, but she does tuck her hand in where possible!

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Sleepyfergus · 18/07/2013 07:55

*swears = weird

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Forgetfulmog · 18/07/2013 07:56

Yep dd does this & the nipping! It's just a comfort thing & no tips I'm afraid!

shellandkai · 18/07/2013 08:00

I had this problem with my ds he grew out of it so don't worry she will grow out of it. He still has a thing about breasts though and sometimes in the evening he likes to cuddle up but has to make a point of having his head on my breasts still.

Sleepyfergus · 18/07/2013 14:06

oh well, will keep gently removing her little hand. Its quite sweet in a way, and I guess I'll miss it when she decides to stop or grows out of it.

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Skintorama · 18/07/2013 14:09

Breasts are lovely and squishy and warm and she probably still remembers them being for food.

Totally normal.

Lets face it, if it was on offer, and society didn't deem it a bit over personal, we'd all enjoy a boobie cuddle now and again. What's not to love?

LingDiLong · 18/07/2013 14:13

Aw, my eldest used to do this! I used to love the way she'd squirm her little fist in no matter what I was wearing. She's 8 now and doesn't do it anymore Grin.

Judyandherdreamofhorses · 18/07/2013 21:25

My DD did this until about 2.5. Nursery staff used to wear their polo shirts buttoned right up!

She still (almost 4 now) loves to feel my neck (which I hate, ugh!), and loves what she calls 'old necks' (DM and DMIL!).

12 month old DS hasn't started this yet, but I will try to distract if he does, because it was a little embarrassing and annoying at times.

Sleepyfergus · 18/07/2013 21:41

Judy, Lol at 'old necks'!!! Grin

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Thurlow · 18/07/2013 21:50

18mo has suddenly developed a thing for nipples, which considering she was never bf seems a little random. The past few days in the heat, where DP in particular hasn't been wearing a t-shirt and I've occasionally not had a top on, have been remarkably painful!

Judyandherdreamofhorses · 18/07/2013 21:51

They don't seem to find it so amusing, strangely! Although they do kindly tolerate it. I received the delightful compliment 'Oh mummy, you're getting quite old now too!' only the other day, while having my neck fondled...

OohMrDarcy · 18/07/2013 21:57

DS is 3.5 and still regularly shoves his hand down my bra whenever being carried / cuddled Grin he's never done the tweaking, though he does like to pull my top down with it to flash my bra to the world!

CabbageHead · 19/07/2013 10:20

Ha ha i just p ut my 15mth ds to bed and yes usual hand shoved down my top stroking my boob...tonight he gave my boob a squeeze, just cracked me up little tyke! I just take his hand out until he is calm enough to just rest it there for comfort.

I dont mind i think it is perfectly natural...within reason!!! And figured it was just a comfort thing.

smearedinfood · 19/07/2013 11:19

DS sometimes holds my boob when he nods off. I'm cool as it helps him nod off and I can get my choc ice from the freezer and whip out the box set.

smearedinfood · 19/07/2013 11:20

Although I haven't worn a low cut top for a while Wink

matana · 19/07/2013 12:59

DS has done this for a while now (not down to the nipple, but he likes putting his hand down my top when he's in a cuddly mood as he snuggles into me). He's 2.6 though Blush He doesn't do it as much as he used to, but when he's over emotional and has had a long day he sneaks it in there. I actually love it as he doesn't usually stop for long enough for cuddles any more. If we're out in public i gently take his hand out. Otherwise it doesn't bother me.

matana · 19/07/2013 13:01

Oh and my niece sucks her thumb, hoiks up her jumper/ dress/ skirt and fiddles with her bare belly button for presumably the same comfort thing. She's 4.

Jojay · 19/07/2013 13:02

DS (2) does this and hates it when I wear a top that doesn't allow access Grin

No tips really but Im sure it won't last forever. Saying that. DS1 who's nearly 7 copped a quick feel the other day too! (it's not a regular thing for him, don't panic!)

KrazyKurls · 19/07/2013 13:02

DD (just 1) also does this, right down to the weaning pattern!

I love it, except the nipping - I love that she is so comforted by it, I'm sure it won't last forever Smile

cornflakegirl · 19/07/2013 13:39

DS2, who is nearly 4, used to do this all the time. I used to tolerate it until he reached the nipple, then I would take his hand out. He still tucks his hand in occasionally, but is fine when I ask him to take it out. My breasts are still his ideal pillow though.

My friend works in a pre-school and quite a lot of the children try to do it to her - very normal.

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