DD has been going through the Terrible Twos since she was 18 months. She's second child, much more demanding and attention seeking than DS. She is very clingy to me and rejects DH. She continues to have tantrums (we do 1,2,3 time out), she wakes during the night (for the past two nights for 90 mins with constant calling to me for attention 'I need a wee, I need a cuddle etc), she is toilet trained and manages fine when not with us but demands that I be with her all the time and if I don't she will wee in a corner on the carpet then tell me about it with a big grin.
It's exhausting for me and the family. We do 3 warnings then time out (which has limited success). I have tried taking her fav book for a day (some success), tried sticker charts (no difference), tried lots of positive praise (does help). I try to shower her with affection and praise to make her feel more secure but it's not helping overall. DH and I had a long talk about it and I was shocked that he said she is verging on not being a likeable child so it's really affecting his relationship with her. We are both really down about it. I've read heaps of toddler training books, the Mumsnet book etc but honestly, I am at the end of my tether which is not helpful I know.
Please, please give me some advice. I just don't know what to do. She is (of course!) a lovely little girl who charms everyone but reserves her worst behaviour for us. Also, I am really concerned about DS who is a quiet soul and misses so much time with me because of DD. I do try and spend quality time with him but it's a battle with DD.