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Discipline for 10 month old?

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Littlecherublegs · 13/07/2013 22:28

My 10 month old DS has started doing things which he shouldn't (e.g. pulling hair, scratching/pinching faces, throwing food on floor on purpose, etc etc) and I'm not sure what to do about it.
I feel he is too young for any 'proper' form of discipline but am not sure whether to just ignore his behaviour and distract him/move him or to firmly say NO (which is what I have been doing)?
Though so far saying "NO" results in him laughing and doing it again, thinking it's a game!

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ceeveebee · 13/07/2013 22:36

I've tended to save "NO" for dangerous situations otherwise I'd be saying it all the time. I used to say "we don't pull hair/pinch/bite, we need to be gentle" and then take their hand and stroke hair/face".

I don't really think you can stop a baby throwing food, just ignore, eventually they get it. I use a splash may under highchair so can just pick it up and put back on without saying anything. Now at 20 mo my twins rarely throw food and if they do, I know they aren't hungry any more and get them down from their chairs

gloucestergirl · 13/07/2013 22:46

DD has been doing the same since about 10 months and now at 17 months she has finally learnt what no means. Still pinches and pulls hair. Now she has started hitting, but she has stopped throwing food.

The trick (as if I know what I am talking about!) is to say no firmly with no hint of drama. Any attention is good attention in their little worlds. But I have really worked on preventing things from happening and praising rather than saying no all the time. I am working on the basis that she'll grow out of these things, so like the previous poster, I save no for dangerous or really bloody annoying things so that it retains its punch (so to speak).

Distraction is probably the best way to save your sanity. I learnt that DD started throwing food when she was full and/or not interested in eating. Simple removal of the food as soon as possible helped alot. Now she passes me her food when full, or even half-eaten!

cory · 14/07/2013 10:45

"but am not sure whether to just ignore his behaviour and distract him/move him or to firmly say NO (which is what I have been doing)?"

I think this is exactly what you should be doing. Smile

At 10 months he hasn't really got a memory long enough for you to be able expect any lasting effects from discipline; the job of keeping him safe and your property intact is still on your shoulders.

You are getting him used to the word NO, sooner or later he will work out that it always coincides with him being moved away/something being taken off him. But it is a long process. And will be even longer before you can expect him to remember beforehand and work out that "last time I did this, it was NO, that means I mustn't do it now".

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