Does post natal effect later relationships?

[Wrenner]

Hi all. I had horrible post natal with my now 4 year old. I feel very different about the relationship I have with him compared to my relationship with my two year old. I don't know if this is related? I get really angry at him and it worry a me. I've smacked him and shouted quite horribly. This pains me to say as I know it's disgusting and wrong. I spoke to my health visitor but then moved so now got a new team coming out next week. I'm a lone parent but they see their dad regularly. I just feel terrible. I don't know why I feel like this but just with him?

I think you may need to be registered with the GP to access the health visitor - if so, can you do that right away to make sure you can access help

It might also be worth asking your old health visitor to make a referral too.

You know that you shouldn't be smacking and shouting so I'm not going to labour that point but you must get help to sort this out

I've registered and health visitors are out next week. Not sure what they can do to help me

Counselling? Parenting courses? Assistance from sure start? Referral to the doctor for PND

Try and be open-minded and accepting of the help. If they don't help, go to the doctor.

Parenting course sounds good. I'm not depressed I don't think