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pals social skills programme

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madeit · 09/07/2013 20:25

I have just been at a social gathering at my 3 and a half year olds nursery. I was discussing my child's progress with his key worker, in an informal context and she said his name would be put forward for a pals programme. I must confess I feel deeply upset about it. I know my son has difficulties managing his emotions especially frustration (when he struggles to do something, or he is misinterpreted) also when another child takes something of his or often when he doesn't get what he wants. He then often quite literally loses it; often hitting another child or if it is me - hitting and attempting (but not actually biting).
I know he has trouble with these emotions but to be frank I feel upset and a bit of a failure. He has always been confident with physical things and slightly aggressive even when he was very little. But I also think what have a not been doing so that he has not learn how to manage these things from me? I am a single mother.
Obviously he will do the programme and when I look online it is an effective one. Less of an issue I am surprised the keyworker didn't exercise a little more tact when telling me about the programme.

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NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 09/07/2013 22:00

It does sound like she was very inappropriate to mention it when she did! I would think about mentioning this to her manager if I were you. SHe chose the wrong time and should have asked for a proper meeting with you in a formal setting.

But don't be sad or feel like a failure. Programmes like this are a Godsend. When we were growing up there was NO help for kids unless they had major issues. When my DD needed social help at aged 7 I took it very hard, until I saw the results!

Things like this are a shock...we all want our DC to be "perfect" and have no issues but the children like that are the rarities. Most kids need help with something at some time...whether that's with reading, maths, making friends or learning how to write....take the help and don't worry. Your DS is still your DS. x

Threewindmills · 10/07/2013 09:29

If it is the same one as my DC was part of (as a small group) it is very good. They just focus on a different topic each week - like sharing or kindness and use puppets as props. It is good - and helps :-)

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