Im so angry right now. DD1 has bitten DD2 7 or 8 times and has drawn blood

[starshaker]

DD1 is 8, there is no excuse. Im so fucking angry. I have sent her to her room so i can comfort dd2 who is 2 and calm down before i deal with her.

I dont know what ive done wrong. I dont know what to do.

good grief.

Kids are weird.

miaow I heard, from the kitchen, two of Ds' older friends in the back garden last week discussing how much it would hurt to get hit in the "privates" [very funny sounding so coy from 2 x 8 year olds] by the football they were playing with.

Next thing I hear is "owwwwwwwwwwwww waaaaaaaaaahhhh" yep, they had decided to test out their theory with a practical experiment. Good scientific vigour, not so good result.

Starshaker, I hope you are feeling more calm and able to handle things today. Hecsy (aka Gandalf the wise) advice is brilliant. I do hope you get somewhere with talking to your older dd. if she did draw blood, it might be worth a call to GP to check if little dd needs a tetanus jab?

Today I am more calm. Dealt with it by talking to her and trying to explain why it wasn't ok. She seems to quite like them again today. Lets hope it lasts

Could your DD be 'blaming' the twins for her Dad leaving? If their arrival and Dad leaving were close together then she may make that connection.
She is obviously angry but at eight years old, biting is a very extreme way to show that anger.
I would definitely get professional advice on this.

How confident do you feel that it won't happen again? Sorry to be negative about it but while she is likely to be doing this out of hurt and anger and that needs to be taken seriously, I would hope that it doesn't become, in her mind, something that actually got her more attention, listened to etc. Davsmum's point about speaking to a professional for advice is useful I think.

After we spoke about it she said its because the twins get more attention and stuff. So i told her for a week i will treat her exactly the same as i do them. She was happy about that to start with but so far she hasnt been allowed to go out and play with her friends, hasnt got to go to the park on her own, wasnt allowed to go round to her cousins, didnt have a sleep over and is now upstairs in her room because its "bedtime".

I dont know if what im doing is the right thing but im trying to show her that she gets different attention to them and that its better to be older

Ooh clever!

ToomuchIsBackOnBootcamp My son's university football team still play that game. It is bizarre to me.