Potty training dd aged 2.5 mths- Not sure where to start?

[cheekymonk]

Hi! I have a ds aged 8 and it seems a long time ago. I was laid back with him but dd is shoing an interest much earlier on. She pulls off her nappy almost every night after being put to bed (hard to know this is bedtime mucking about or genuine discomfort at nappy) but she now takes it off in day if she has had a poo or if a lot of wees which shows she knows what is going on. She has started at new cm this week, goes there 3 days a week and nursery too. Will be moving rooms in august so lots of change looming so don't know when to start and how to do it! Have bought some knickers- do I literally just put her in some and encourage potty from there (we have one in house she sits on it sometimes). Also what about nights? How do you give message no nappies in daytim e but ok for night? Nursery were very anti pull ups when I asked so not at all sure!!!! Any advice would be much appreciated.

I'd buy a big pack of stickers or chocolate buttons as bribery. I'd take her to pick out some new pants. I'd then explain that from now on, because she is a big girl, all wees/poos go in the potty or toilet.

I'd then have a week at home (if possible) and offer/suggest potty/toilet every half hr or so to begin with.

For every wee or poo in potty I'd make a massive fuss, lots of praise & button or sticker on her potty.

If she has an accident just change her matter of factly and say 'never mind we'll get it in the potty next time' etc etc

Then it's just repetition & perseverance.

Cold turkey on the nappies is less confusing.

It's up to you whether you want nappies on for naps or night.

My ds1 wasn't dry at night till 4 so I did use nappies at night.

My ds2 was dry day & night at 2 so I didn't use nappies at all after he was trained.

Good luck!!

Thanks bakery queen. DD actually got out her hello Kitty knickers a couple of weeks ago and put them on proudly! she is nappy free at home all the time in daytime and nursery too also supporting but cm not at all happy when I took dd in knickers and insisted on pull ups1 she is out with dd most of day on public transport etc and said she is not happy for dd to be in knickers. She feels it is unpleasant for dd and the other children to be having accidents. She said dd is not ready until she can ask for potty. i think DD is finding nappis/pull ups uncomfortable in this hot weather as at first she was not at all interested in potty but is now. She sits on it but is yet to do a wee or poo in it which cm says proves her point. she said she has had a child before who took weeks bordering months to potty train with the let them feel the wee approach whereas pull ups avoid that. I do feel cm is being a bit inflexible especially as she has brought up having a new carpet into the equation as previous child dyed the carpet with accidents but cm has a dedicated playroom and surely as a cm its par for the course? Cm is brilliant apart from this issue but nursery have said it is very confusing for dd to have different approaches which i agree with. am stressed as don't want dd to be upset and confused :(

Wow, surely CM should follow your lead? My dd in nursery and they were really supportive, in fact they positively encouraged us to crack on. Not much help on that front, sorry!
But if it's any help, I stayed at home with her from fri to Sunday the first week, pants on during day, pull up for nap and nappy at night. First day she didn't make it once, second day better but by the following Friday no accidents at all. This was 3 weeks ago and so far only one further accident. She was displaying the same behaviour as your dd, clearly hating nappy etc.

Is there any way you could take some time off work to have a real crack at it, that way you could say to CM that you are fairly confident she will be ok. We did use pull ups on car journeys for first couple of weeks, so you could suggest that as an option when she's out and about. Also travel potty has been a life saver.
Good luck!!