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Stroppy toddler!

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Sleepyk · 04/07/2013 15:21

Our 2 (nearly 3) year old is sooooo difficult and Im not sure what to do. Daddy said to just put her in her room but as i have pointed out...she would spend most of the day in there as she is also extremely stubborn- and we would never get out of the house.

If someone talks to her that she doesnt know (or often if she does know them) she just gives them a filthy look and no coercing can jolly her out of it. She wont eat unless she wants to but I do insist that she sits down for food which usually results in her crying sulking and dragging it out for unending amounts of time. If you ask her to do anything that disturbs her play then she just point blank refuses. she can be very happy and cheerful when she feels like it but its hard work the rest f the time....any advice?

Im quite a happy person and I try to keep calm (without giving in to her) but dh says im handling her all wrong (thanks!)....he just gets cross and puts her in her room. She is actually worse with daddy or my sd's around....confused!

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shoesontheglasslamp · 04/07/2013 21:27

Maybe try a parenting book? I've got 123 Magic on order having heard good things about it, but I've obviously not read it yet...

If you and DH can find one you agree on, then you can have a plan and be consistent with it for a few weeks. If you can both find a place to agree, then it might be easier to deal with your DD's challenges.

HTH.x

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 04/07/2013 21:28

Mine too. You have my sympathies! I'm using the good old MN mantra of, "this too shall pass"

sesamechoc · 07/07/2013 02:53

Hi,

Please read alfie kohn " unconditional parenting" It is , quite frankly , the best book I have ever read in my life ! DP said " what - better than Kafka?"Me " yes"...We've both read it and used it for our 2 boys and the harmony in the house is amazing, don't be put off by the title - it's not a hippy permissive type of book - it's actually an evidence based book...oh and please don't get 123 magic.

BeenieBaby · 07/07/2013 06:03

We went down the permissive route with ds (now 2.3) and his tantrums have massively reduced. Essentially I have just learnt to pick my battles, and I also give him a lot more positive reinforcement e.g 'thanks for sharing', 'thanks for not hitting your sister', 'I'm proud of you for walking nicely and helping me push the buggy' etc. I sound nuts but it helps him understand what are nice and naughty behaviours. And for when he is naughty (e.g pulling books out of the shelves), I use distraction or the threat of tickling him and then ticking turns into play which essentially distracts him.

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