dd9 acting like a 16year old! ggr!

pipsqueakz · 2013-07-03T07:29:50+00:00

So this morning dd9 had her head right up her backside! The usual mad morning rush she was taking forever as usual very frustrating so I kindly ask her why it takes so long for her to eat her cereal brush her teeth and hair whilst doing so she looks at me like I'm something she's trodden in and walks off. Gggr! Why when you ask a simple question they stare through you and the only answer you get is don't know and OK. Sorry to rant. Just feel like leaving her to walk herself to school. Didn't even get a morning mum! Feeling slightly taken for granted this morning. Sorry for the rant all.

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NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 03/07/2013 08:40

Mine is nearly 9 and sometimes speaks to me like I'm a piece of crap. I have had very strong words....I set a time aside when she was in a good mood and approached her about it. I explained that she's too rude...and that I love her but she can't speak to me in this way.

She's been better since....it's hormones I think...making them grumpy. More excersise is my other remedy! We took her swimming after school last night and the improvement was huge!

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pipsqueakz · 03/07/2013 09:06

Thank you its comforting to no its not just mine. I have 3dc's two boys one girl. I'm finding boys much easier to deal with ATM. She won't talk to me just shrugs it off. Had strong words on way to school. Feel like I'm at breaking point! Let's hope things improve after school pick up.

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musicalfamily · 03/07/2013 09:11

Hi I am exactly the same with my nearly 9 year old too. Compounded by lots of other puberty type symptoms, so I know it is something hormonal but I can't cope and I feel always at breaking point with her.

She is in a mood most of the time and her behaviour is just like a toddler's. She has stopped being herself in many ways and I just yearn for my old little girl...she does lots of exercise so it doesn't seem to have helped much. Glad it isn't only me..

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pipsqueakz · 03/07/2013 09:39

Just found something that says I hate my mum :(

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pipsqueakz · 03/07/2013 09:59

I know what you mean by wanting little girl back it was so un complicated. I'm lost :(

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musicalfamily · 03/07/2013 10:01

ps I also have 2 younger boys and a younger girl and they are a dream in comparison. It has only just started I'd say in the last 3 months.

Thankfully my mum and dad are taking the kids this summer for 3 weeks, a break will probably do us all good...maybe missing each other will help, who knows??!

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pipsqueakz · 03/07/2013 12:58

Can they take mine for 3wks Lol. I've made a decision to ignore the hate letter. I'm her mum not her friend whether she likes me or not lol. I'm blinking back the tears! Holding my head up. If it all goes pear shaped I'll ask her about it but it may make things worse if I confront her.

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SchnitzelVonKrumm · 03/07/2013 13:13

Yep, I've got one like that - swings between teen and toddler, and just so full of herself and RUDE.
She is very anxious about going into year 5 at school though - I don't think she really wants to grow up. Seem to recall social interactions become more complicated at this age and that there's a big disparity for a few years between girls who are maturing faster or slower.
So I am trying to be sympathetic, but dear me it is hard sometimes!

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pipsqueakz · 03/07/2013 13:46

It so is schnitzel I'm pulling my hair out! And so flat because of it. She's so rude at times and very bitchy. I love her dearly but feel I'm losing my baby :( I know I need to get a grip. Stop beating myself up. I think I have a bit of an insecurity thing going on.

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JohFlow · 04/07/2013 20:43

My son (just turned 10) is on one too!

Over the last two weeks his feet have suddenly turned to Gorgonzola and we have our first spot - yay!! He's moving from average-moodipants to strop-central. It's like someone has flicked the angry switch and can feel a rebellion rising.

I have given him a little independence to walk to school on his own recently. But he seems to think that he can make other 'adult decisions' (like stopping off at the park on the way home without permission).

I did the 'kind Mum understanding you're changing thing' last week. And gave him time to confide.

But this week its the riot act - I've told him my house, my rules etc. Then 'So you are ready to be an adult - here is a list of everyday chores an adult does, get on with them'. Of course he asked for help whilst he was doing his menial tasks. My reply 'an adult finds a way to do these things'. At the end of the night 'Mum do I need to be an adult tomorrow? lol.

I am hoping to be able to handle his pubertal years better than my parents handled mine - that's a big challenge in itself.

JohFlow · 04/07/2013 20:46

My son (just turned 10) is on one too!

Over the last two weeks his feet have suddenly turned to Gorgonzola and we have our first spot - yay!! He's moving from average-moodipants to strop-central. It's like someone has flicked the angry switch and can feel a rebellion rising.

I have given him a little independence to walk to school on his own recently. But he seems to think that he can make other 'adult decisions' (like stopping off at the park on the way home without permission).

I did the 'kind Mum understanding you're changing thing' last week. And gave him time to confide.

But this week its the riot act - I've told him my house, my rules etc. Then 'So you are ready to be an adult - here is a list of everyday chores an adult does, get on with them'. Of course he asked for help whilst he was doing his menial tasks. My reply 'an adult finds a way to do these things'. At the end of the night 'Mum do I need to be an adult tomorrow? lol.

I am hoping to be able to handle his pubertal years better than my parents handled mine - that's a big challenge in itself.

FullOfChoc · 04/07/2013 20:52

Marking place as have 8 yo dd heading fast in this direction.

wheredidiputit · 04/07/2013 20:59

I have a Drama Llama as well.

This week she has spent a lot of time in her room as she wants to be alone screamed at 400decibells.

Am not looking forward to the holidays as I also have a 4yr ds who is well a 4yr boy, and a nearly 6yr dd who wants to play with her sister.

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pipsqueakz · 05/07/2013 07:47

Mine hasn't been as bad last few days. Not 100% but much better than she was. Fingers crossed it may last over the weekend

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TheOneWithTheHair · 05/07/2013 07:52

I have a 9yr old dd too. She's generally lovely but can be rude and obnoxious when she's feeling worried about something. She never just tells me she's worried though. I have to try and figure it out.

Can you find out if anything is bothering her atm? It could help to talk it out.

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pipsqueakz · 05/07/2013 08:13

Well all week I've been thinking well worrying and have come up with an idea as middle of week I found a note in her room that stabbed me in the heart. My project this weekend is yo make a worry post box. As she finds it easier to write things down and the boys can use it too. They can write the worry, message, feeling down and we will look at the box at end of week and hopefully talk it through.

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TheOneWithTheHair · 05/07/2013 08:17

That sounds like a great idea. I hope she responds well. It could be a useful tool.

TheOneWithTheHair · 05/07/2013 08:18

It might help if you use it too for some things. It could encourage her. I might steal that idea if that's ok?

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pipsqueakz · 05/07/2013 08:22

That's fine, can't remember where I got the idea from. I will call it the practical emotion box. One feels clever this morning lol makes a bloody change!

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TheOneWithTheHair · 05/07/2013 08:23

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pipsqueakz · 05/07/2013 08:26

Let's hope the bright ideas keep rolling in today! Lol.

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FullOfChoc · 06/07/2013 23:17

Great idea. You could even she if they are still a worry at the end of the week (gently demonstrating that a lot of things we worry about aren't a problem for long).

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pipsqueakz · 08/07/2013 09:45

Well this is week one of the emotiabox we call it. And so far so good but it may be a bit of a novelty however she hasn't written random rubbish unlike her older brother. New one of them would abuse it. Never mind if it works for my dd at Mo that the main thing. Feel like im getting my dd back yay!

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