New Born Sleeping

[asfish]

Hi everyone our first (boy) was born 23rd June. For the first week he was really good in that he just ate then slept in a basket for 2-4 hours all day. He took to breast feeding straight away and there have never been any issues at all.

This week he will not sleep on his own, the minute we put him down he cries, so we have had him sleeping on us and took him to bed with us at night.

This as worked for all of us sleep wise, but I?m wondering at what point do we start to be harder on him in terms of sleeping on his own and how do we do it? Do we just do big bang or by stages?

I?ve been told that babies are very clever and will soon get to like all the sleeping on and with us vs on their own so we could have problems later on.

Thanks in advance for any help or advice!

He's still very very tiny and fresh. Let him sleep when and where he wants - I hardly put mine down at that age. They need to be cuddled.

He is still getting used to the world. In the first week all the sedatives naturally produced by your placenta are still wearing off.

Any kind of sleep training is generally not recommended until at least six months. Until then I would recommend a sling tbh - with my DC I found that holding them made them less fussy about being held, and putting them down made them hate the cot more.

I have started detaching my DS this week and he is nine months. I've spent most of the time since he was born being very attached.
You are only one week in so I would go with the flow and enjoy it and it's great that you are doing well feeding etc.
They do start to calm down and become a little more independent gradually but not for a while - for lots of babies - or my two at least - it took a good few months for them not to want to be with you all the time.
But I have been very easy going about it.
Depends how you want to approach it really - I have very strict friends who were adamant baby goes into cot from the get go. I just don't have the stomach for it.
I don't believe all the stuff about babies being clever and manipulating you etc - they just like being with their parents.
Congrats on your baby!

I also had a baby on te 23rd :) and we have exactly he same. I try his basket every night do far hopelessly. I remember from DS1 that it was about 3-4 weeks in that he would sleep in it? Ish. It's all a blur

This phase does pass!

Thanks for all the advice! Last night he slept like a log in his basket after both feeds. I missed him not being in the bed as his so cute!

Omg Im so relieved to read these posts!! My bubba was born on the 25th June and, whilst during the day he will sometimes go in his Moses basket fine, he totally doesn't like it at night so we've had him in bed with us, which scares me slightly but my SO and i are super careful. But i have to admit that whilst i wouldn't be without him for the world, his smallness and fragileness terrifies me and i find myself getting quite stressed around early evening at how we'll cope during the night. Bubba is also a slow feeder and feeds for about 30 min to an hour each time which is knackering. I know this time will get better, but getting to that point is feeling like its going to be a real test of our strength.

With my first DS we ended up co sleeping for the same reasons you mentioned. We transitioned him to a cot when he was 12mo. It was a gradual process and took abit of effort but I found it much more doable than trying to convince a tiny newborn to sleep in a cot when all they want is to be close to you (and you need sleep yourself rather desperately too!). Had DS2 on 7 June and we're taking the same approach deliberately this time.