Excessive screaming in 2yr old!

[Nancyclancy]

My dd has just turned 2. I know tantrums are a normal part of toddlerhood but she's starting to drive me completely friggin mad with her excessive screaming!

If she can't get her own way or is frustrated or simply doesn't want to do something she screams really loudly and for long periods.
It's getting to the point where I am avoiding taking her out!

So far, I have tried ignoring, talking to her calmly, going outside and leaving her to it and telling her off.

We've been invited to a BBQ tomorrow and I really can't face it.

Any suggestions would be most appreciated! TIA

What are the triggers? Is she napping?

The important thing is that you're not allowing her to get what she wants by screaming. If that remains consistent the screaming will stop at some point.

She may be pushing the boundaries by screaming but she may also be genuinely upset and angry and unable to express it any other way.

Keep calm and be a reassuring presence. Don't reward or punish in any way but do remove her from the situation to have her tantrum in relative privacy if you feel more comfortable doing that.

You can always remind her that if she kicks off you will both just go out to the xxxx and wait for her to finish if her understanding is sufficient. She may decide to calm herself down instead.

There isn't a magic cure for this because it takes them a long time to learn to manage the rage without exploding. You need to play the long game. Your plan isn't to stop her screaming. It's to not give her a reason for doing it any longer than the absolute minimum.

Remind yourself that every parent around you has been through the same. They aren't judging you. They are thanking their lucky stars that it isn't their child today

No advice really just I feel your pain! Im going to introduce a chill out corner for my almost 2yr old.

Remember - this too shall pass (even though it doesnt seem like it!)

I hope it gets sorted for you soon.

It's a frustrating time for her - she knows what she wants but doesn't yet have the language to express herself or the understanding to realise she can't always have it. Hope you did go to the BBQ - this stage might last for a few weeks / months (sorry!) so it would be a shame to miss out on things!