Is there anything I can do about the whining? 24 months, non verbal

[nellynellytoo]

The whining starts at sunrise and continues all day. It is driving me absolutely crazy and I do anything to get out of the house to keep him busy as this is all I can do to cope with it. I count down the hours to his nap and then to bedtime.

On top of that I am pregnant and have nausea all day and we are about to move house/town and am packing up the house and cleaning between toddler groups/park/soft play/shopping trips.

He doesn't speak at all and we have had his hearing tested which was perfect and once we move I will chase up his referral to SALT. I also will be booking him to a nursery/preschool that hopefully will help with his communication as well.

In the meantime are there any suggestions? I get so frustrated and angry with him whining all the time and I feel so guilty that he must be so frustrated and bored at home that I end up putting the tv on too much when we are at home.

I really feel that it affecting our bond and this is stressing me out so much as well. Sometimes he looks at me with this look as if he knows I don't want him around me and he is feeling rejected by me.

I know all children develop at different rates, but if he doesn't communicate at all I'd be worried and going to see a doctor ASAP. Does he make any sounds that mean things (apart from whining!) like animal noises or his own 'words' for things? Or say mama/dada? The whining is probably frustration, my dd has had dreadful phases of day-long whining just before gaining a new skill, or could he be growing his last lot of molars?

I can understand how you feel, am 15w pg and also struggled in the early days (and still get tired and grumpy now). When you go out where do you go? I found toddler groups and friends houses the best for entertaining dd and getting a bit if adult company.

Do you mean I should be pushing for referral to a paediatrician too?

Only 'word' he uses is no no no no no babbled. No mama dada etc

He is frustrated I know which is why he whines but it still drives me crazy!

He does communicate through pointing, waving, clapping but that is all.

I go to toddler groups in the morning and try to get out in the afternoon as well or we get cabin fever. Only have 2 friends we do play dates with otherwise it is soft play, park or walk to and around the shops.

He loves playing with other kids which is why he is so much easier to handle out and about. He actually plays nicely with them (as much as a toddler can) thank goodness! Which is why I also think the whining is down to boredom.

Have you tried signing? I have a DS with speech delay and having some simple signs (eg more, drink, eat, finished etc) really helped ease the frustration. Am on phone abroad so can't link to books etc but there are starter ones - check online. And do chase up the SALT referral sooner rather than later asap as waiting times are LONG (and that was just for an initial assessment). If you can afford to go privately, that's another option.