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Hooo, isn't your child walking yet.... and other comments...

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syl1985 · 19/06/2013 16:14

Some kids are quicker at something then the other. I never really cared about my children being sooner or later at doing something.

As long as they were fine, I was happy.

But for some reason some other parents do seem to think it's a competition. That's ok if they want to compare their children with others. But respect that I'm not like that and leave my kids out of the competition. They'll develop in their own time.

Some silly woman told me when my 1rst child was almost a year.
Isn't he walking yet? Isn't he doing this yet or that. My kids was already doing that on his age.....

I was like:
He'll start walking in his own time. No worries, before he's 18 years old he'll have learned how to walk, talk, being fully potty trained and all the rest.
It's a healthy boy, so I'm not worried at all.

She totally didn't got it that this was a nice way of saying: Fuck off!!!
(I barely knew this woman)

She continued with saying stuff like I should be worried about it. Something might be wrong with him. and bla bla bla

Me more firmly:
He isn't 1 yet. I really am not going to be worried at all at this moment.

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lottieandmia · 19/06/2013 16:18

Stupid woman.

Some people are just so annoying. I remember taking dd1 to a baby group when she was 4 months old and some woman said to me 'Have you got her weaned yet?'

People are such bores. As you say when they are even 6 or 7 you don't even remember when they did these things!

MiaowTheCat · 19/06/2013 21:09

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KeepCoolCalmAndCollected · 19/06/2013 21:30

Some people are very good at elevating their children at any given opportunity. Unfortunately there's a lot of it around though :-(

Wait for the (forced) potty training and the oooh he hasn't needed any sleep now during the day for months and months (always with the poor miserable child with purple blotches under its eyes).

Used to drive me nucking futs!!

PhilPhil · 19/06/2013 22:10

Agree comparisons annoying, but I usually want sympathy about my children giving up sleeping in the day - I'm not boasting, but regretting the days of nice long naps!

nailslikeknives · 19/06/2013 22:15

My GP told me his son was potty trained at 4 months. Clearly this was bollocks, I still wish I'd actually told him that!

tethersend · 19/06/2013 22:27

DD1 didn't walk until she was 20 months, but had 100 words at 12mo and was speaking in sentences by 18mo.

DD2 has no words at 12 mo, but does enjoy headbutting things reasonably hard. Oh, and walks.

Guess which one got the 'isn't she clever' comments and which got the concerned frowns? Grin

TheBookofRuth · 19/06/2013 22:28

My DD is about to turn 17 months and still isn't walking. My standard response to the "isn't she walking yet?" brigade is "no, but her unicycling is coming on a treat".

Onesleeptillwembley · 19/06/2013 22:41

Tell her he's too busy doing sudoku.

CabbageHead · 20/06/2013 02:42

Yes roll my eyes... Actually my mothers grp are awesome, all their bubs are walking except mine, never been commented on at all.. They r so lovely. (I have HN Non sleeping bub) But inlaws diff story, SILs, PIL all keep asking he,d be ready for dropping to 1nap now?, is he walking yet?, when r u going to stop bf?, over and over and over... Tedious... Used to p... Me off until i realised that PIL too old to remember accurately, and SIL obviously incredibly insecure... The worst was when she used to say to me, 'but he is just so happy all the time' (when i wld whinge about how hard DS was cos he gets tired and grumpy so often as was such a non sleeper when he was younger)...

I couldn't give a flying f... DS will start walking, when he is ready to leave the security of my hand he will, im happy if he still crawls becos its faster for him, im dreading him running all over the place, im knackered enough now ha ha!

honestly is it just becos people seriously don't have a life and anything else to talk about lol!!!!

Geeklover · 20/06/2013 02:53

I had one yesterday.
Ds2 is nearly 3 and has never been a morning person. Since he was just weeks old I've had to wake him up in the morning to take the other 2 to school. The result being he still sleeps for half to an hour in the afternoon. At the weekend or if I have someone else to take the other 2 to school he sleeps until 9am and doesn't nap. He's not up late at night he's just a boy that loves a long sleep.
I have a 2 mile round trip to school and a half hour wait in between dd and ds1 getting out so I take a buggy in the afternoon for him.
Mum at school yesterday said if I just took him out and made him walk he'd soon stop sleeping
Hmm why didn't I think of that? Maybe because I don't fancy carrying him because in the half hour wait he is so tired he's fallen asleep in the park/on my knee/ at granny's house.
He's still quite little really and won't be going to school in 2 years in a buggy.

KeepCoolCalmAndCollected · 20/06/2013 14:30

Geeklover
Mine was like yours - could have slept for England. My view is if they need it they need it, the sky is not going to fall in is it!

ChunkyChicken · 20/06/2013 16:45

Only 30mins nap?!! My DD (3yo) still has a nice long nap in the afternoon. So shoot me... Grin

Geeklover · 20/06/2013 22:04

Yep 30 minutes to an hour. Although until a month or so ago it was still a good 2 hours and goes to bed no problem at night.
I figure I'm not going to be tucking him up with his teddy halfway through his first day at work so what does it matter?
And he times it nicely. He climbs into his buggy usually just before I start getting ready to do the school run and drops off.
He will literally try and sleep where he is. He had even lay down on the grass at the park playing and started dozing off. Grin

Mycatistoosexy · 20/06/2013 22:10

You get it the other way too though. My DS walked early. I am not in any way bothered whether he walked early or later. Different focuses, different babies.

However I get filthy looks from mothers at baby groups and ridiculous comments about "forcing him to walk early" Hmm

phnarphnarphnar · 20/06/2013 22:38

Oh it works the other way too - DS walked (totally independently) at just gone 9 months. I then got the "ah well he'll probably be behind on talking" Drove me mad!!!

I had to bite my tongue to not tell them he had already said a few words by then too

MedusaIsHavingaBadHairday · 20/06/2013 22:50

One of my four walked at 9 months..and spoke in sentences by 18 months.
His brother walked at 24 months and spoke at 4.

I'm not going to tell you which son has been the least trouble ever since.... Grin

Nancyclancy · 20/06/2013 23:44

My dd definitely wins for being the latest walker (nearly 26 months and still not walking.) She does have some issues and will hopefully get there at some point.

It drives me crazy, the competitiveness of some people. It's so insensitive and in the past I've felt completely shit by it.

I

chocoluvva · 20/06/2013 23:58

It doesn't seem enough to just have a healthy 'normal' baby anymore Sad

My mum was amazed at all the comparing and measuring that went on with my first DC and her 'peers'.

Do we need to justify ourselves with comments about how our babies are so amazingly advanced? Why?

Hersetta · 21/06/2013 12:37

Stupid woman.

My DS walked for the first time 2 weeks ago (he was a week short of 22 months). Am immensely happy for him as he's thinks he's so clever but he can sing perfect versions of wind the bobbin up, twinkle twinkle and baa baa black sheep.

Their either walkers or talkers I have been told.

SupermansBigRedPants · 21/06/2013 13:01

Ds 19 months wouldn't sleep until 11pm, df stopped his nap 3 weeks ago just to try - ds now sleeps from 7-7 Shock i refused to give up his nap but am now in an egg meet face situation Grin the amount of people grandparents especially my mother who after saying oh cut his nap out for months are now saying ''oh if he's going down 6.40/7 he'll wake through the night'' is driving me up the wall! He is really good through the day and hasn't woken in the night since day 3 of no naps... blimmin mother

SupermansBigRedPants · 21/06/2013 13:08

Oh grr too, ds isn't a great speaker - we have a few words but not much conversation wise - but because he is really tall like a 3 year old at least, people always chat to him and say to me 'oh not chatting today' and 'he's not got much to say' dtc with the look. whilst most of them have the decency to jump back in their box once i tell them his age some don't and start with ''my dgc/dc/neighbours cousins sisters dc could recite the fecking bible at that age.. pish.

Dd was an amazing chatter, had over 300 words by 17 months and full conversations so i know dc develop differently! Dd sat quietly and spoke lots, ds runs wild and bambles on - each to their own Grin

chocoluvva · 21/06/2013 13:29

SupermansBigRedPants, another poster on this thread said that her DC had over a "hundred words" at a particular age. How do you know how many words your DC have? Do you actually count them . Sorry if I'm old and out of touch!

SupermansBigRedPants · 21/06/2013 13:49

Ha yes, yes i did Grin it was one day her gps were taking her and the first time she said dinosaur, they were shocked at such a big word from someone so little and we got to talking about how many words she had - obviously filler words, then day to day words - her clothing,food, travel etc, family and names - aunty so and so etc, then random / big words took her to 364 words Blush i remember saying it was just under a word for a year Grin it is a sad thing to know but i do :)

diplodocus · 21/06/2013 14:02

It was the weight one that got me. DD2 was around 7lb at births so fine but not huge (I'm small myself so certainly wasn't expecting a whopper). Two acquaintances had huge 10lbers a few days before. I got endless "ooh how much does she weigh NOW," "ooh she's still so tiny", and then a patronising "don't worry, I'm sure she'll catch up sometime". I wasn't worried, she was gaining weight beautifully, I didn't care if she caught up and was under the (presumably mistaken) impression that I had a baby not a prize marrow where weight was the be all and end all. The funniest thing was a few years later when we were all out another parent rather archly pointed out than my DD was now taller than one of their DSs - his mum was practically frothing at the mouth and protesting that we couldn't really tell properly as they weren't standing next to each other etc...

chocoluvva · 21/06/2013 14:03

I thought there was maybe an official list or something in the 'red book' Grin

For all that I think many mums get a bit carried away with 'measuring and comparing' their little ones, it must be nice sometimes to have a number/exact date etc to tell the story properly. Eg, I wish I'd made a note of DS's height last year just before he had a growth spurt - I think he grew 5 inches in one year, but it would be better to definitely know the exact details. Saying 'he grew from 5ft 4 to 5ft 9 in 10 months' or whatever would be better than remarking that he shot up in height when he was 13 IYSWIM.